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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 709996" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>LIL and COPA, I identify so much with so much that both of you are saying there.</p><p></p><p>LIL, my ex about bankrupted me too. I didn't file because I just went off the grid for more than seven years and it all passed. My financial recovery is a piece of recovery work that doesn't seem to be taken too serious by the professionals in my life-- I think that's out of good-heartedness-- like they really don't care if I am poor or not-- they just care about me. But I feel like I have poverty PSTD. There were years where we had really made nothing, and there are years that we made money- but I had zero control over money and he believed in "investing" in guitars rather than buying health insurance or any other type of insurance, or knowing there would be enough left to buy groceries in two weeks. He destroyed my credit. I have rebuilt my credit, I am in the process of becoming a homeowner, and I have, just today transitioned off of public health insurance. It's is very hard for me to imagine ever letting anyone near my financial world ever again. I have total empathy. ...and these money issues definitely pop up in my relationship with my son. </p><p></p><p>The cabin also sounds like a dream. Last year I started spending time in the woods. I am scared of driving, but my big dream is to get out into the woods with my dog. I can take public transportation without him, but to take him I will have to learn to drive-- or learn to have confidence driving. </p><p></p><p>And then, back to money-- basically-- I'm generally so cheap that I have no money worries at all-- I automatically save almost everything as if there will never be another dime coming in ever again.... but there are a lot of changes in my financial life happening and I will have more expenses. It's reassuring to read about budgeting-- it's good to hear about tools that can help me feel like I have a lot of control.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 709996, member: 17805"] LIL and COPA, I identify so much with so much that both of you are saying there. LIL, my ex about bankrupted me too. I didn't file because I just went off the grid for more than seven years and it all passed. My financial recovery is a piece of recovery work that doesn't seem to be taken too serious by the professionals in my life-- I think that's out of good-heartedness-- like they really don't care if I am poor or not-- they just care about me. But I feel like I have poverty PSTD. There were years where we had really made nothing, and there are years that we made money- but I had zero control over money and he believed in "investing" in guitars rather than buying health insurance or any other type of insurance, or knowing there would be enough left to buy groceries in two weeks. He destroyed my credit. I have rebuilt my credit, I am in the process of becoming a homeowner, and I have, just today transitioned off of public health insurance. It's is very hard for me to imagine ever letting anyone near my financial world ever again. I have total empathy. ...and these money issues definitely pop up in my relationship with my son. The cabin also sounds like a dream. Last year I started spending time in the woods. I am scared of driving, but my big dream is to get out into the woods with my dog. I can take public transportation without him, but to take him I will have to learn to drive-- or learn to have confidence driving. And then, back to money-- basically-- I'm generally so cheap that I have no money worries at all-- I automatically save almost everything as if there will never be another dime coming in ever again.... but there are a lot of changes in my financial life happening and I will have more expenses. It's reassuring to read about budgeting-- it's good to hear about tools that can help me feel like I have a lot of control. [/QUOTE]
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