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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 710019" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>COPA- I had read what your wrote about needing to live somewhere that you didn't have to go on the highway, but I didn't know that you used to drive confidently then stopped.</p><p></p><p>Do you know what triggered the switch? An accident?</p><p></p><p>I, too, used to drive. I wasn't a big fan of it though- it always seemed dangerous. Then I moved to a big city where thought I would never need to drive, but I quickly met my ex who didn't like public transportation so we (actually, he) drove everywhere. There was a time when his license was suspended that I took over driving- but I remember freezing and crying in the street. There was a time when he bought a new car and I had to drive the old one back on a highway, and I nearly caused more than one accident. Eventually I got confident enough to drive my kid to school- I had a set path where I didn't have to change lanes, etc.</p><p></p><p>I can see now that the big issue with me and driving is that I need to understand that I effect the field. Other drivers will respond to me-- my default in life in the past has been to believe that all the players around me are on set courses and I just have to avoid them all to protect myself (this is why changing lanes was so hard). When I was teenager I could change lanes... but there was a gradual and steady erosion of my sense of being a factor in anything. </p><p></p><p>At this point I understand that I exist and can hold power. I am hopeful that I will be able regain confidence. It needs to be on my own terms, when I am ready. </p><p></p><p>I see the thoughtfulness and engagement of your posts here. You might think it's just a 1% change for you to gain confidence, but I think that if becomes something you want, you will accomplish it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 710019, member: 17805"] COPA- I had read what your wrote about needing to live somewhere that you didn't have to go on the highway, but I didn't know that you used to drive confidently then stopped. Do you know what triggered the switch? An accident? I, too, used to drive. I wasn't a big fan of it though- it always seemed dangerous. Then I moved to a big city where thought I would never need to drive, but I quickly met my ex who didn't like public transportation so we (actually, he) drove everywhere. There was a time when his license was suspended that I took over driving- but I remember freezing and crying in the street. There was a time when he bought a new car and I had to drive the old one back on a highway, and I nearly caused more than one accident. Eventually I got confident enough to drive my kid to school- I had a set path where I didn't have to change lanes, etc. I can see now that the big issue with me and driving is that I need to understand that I effect the field. Other drivers will respond to me-- my default in life in the past has been to believe that all the players around me are on set courses and I just have to avoid them all to protect myself (this is why changing lanes was so hard). When I was teenager I could change lanes... but there was a gradual and steady erosion of my sense of being a factor in anything. At this point I understand that I exist and can hold power. I am hopeful that I will be able regain confidence. It needs to be on my own terms, when I am ready. I see the thoughtfulness and engagement of your posts here. You might think it's just a 1% change for you to gain confidence, but I think that if becomes something you want, you will accomplish it. [/QUOTE]
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