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Are all of us divorced or single moms? Is this a factor?
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 635609" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>I divorced when my son was 15. I don't think it was the divorce that caused the problem, it was staying with his father for way too many years and the misery that caused and the effect that had on us all. I should have divorced when the kids were young. Growing up with a dysfunctional father has definitely had a lasting impact on my son. So I do feel guilty that I didn't escape with the children when they were young.</p><p></p><p>My parents were very unhappy and I remember rows and upset and my mother going to bed for days on end and not speaking to any of us. It would have been better if they had divorced, but it wasn't so easy then. They were stuck together until my father died. In their case I can see now that it was my mother's behaviour that caused my father misery. It's better to get out of an unhappy marriage and we are lucky that we're not as trapped as generations past. </p><p></p><p>The divorce rate is nearing 50% isn't it? and it's not 50% of children that become difficult children, so I can't see that there is a correlation. It's easy to blame ourselves for our kids' problems and I don't think it's fair to lump yet another cause of guilt, such as divorce, on ourselves.</p><p></p><p>My second husband is also divorced and none of his children are difficult children. I'm his third wife. Most, if not all, of my friends are also divorced, but none of them have experienced the worry and stress that my son has caused me.</p><p></p><p>Divorce and step-families are becoming the norm in our society. It's no excuse for the behaviour of some of our children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 635609, member: 17650"] I divorced when my son was 15. I don't think it was the divorce that caused the problem, it was staying with his father for way too many years and the misery that caused and the effect that had on us all. I should have divorced when the kids were young. Growing up with a dysfunctional father has definitely had a lasting impact on my son. So I do feel guilty that I didn't escape with the children when they were young. My parents were very unhappy and I remember rows and upset and my mother going to bed for days on end and not speaking to any of us. It would have been better if they had divorced, but it wasn't so easy then. They were stuck together until my father died. In their case I can see now that it was my mother's behaviour that caused my father misery. It's better to get out of an unhappy marriage and we are lucky that we're not as trapped as generations past. The divorce rate is nearing 50% isn't it? and it's not 50% of children that become difficult children, so I can't see that there is a correlation. It's easy to blame ourselves for our kids' problems and I don't think it's fair to lump yet another cause of guilt, such as divorce, on ourselves. My second husband is also divorced and none of his children are difficult children. I'm his third wife. Most, if not all, of my friends are also divorced, but none of them have experienced the worry and stress that my son has caused me. Divorce and step-families are becoming the norm in our society. It's no excuse for the behaviour of some of our children. [/QUOTE]
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