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Are all of us divorced or single moms? Is this a factor?
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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 635610" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>I've been married to the same man for 34 years, with no divorces in either of our families, and I have two sons with criminal leanings. However, my husband had some major issues (untreated mental illness, alcoholism) until about 8 years ago, so for many of my kids' formative years we lived in various degrees of chaos. So I'm not sure if divorce per-se is a contributing factor, or maybe a chaotic family atmosphere. Then I think some kids are going to be difficult children regardless of their upbringing.</p><p> </p><p>I feel like my older difficult child's problems started when we moved from a small town to a large city in his freshman year of high school. I think he was overwhelmed by culture shock and latched onto the first kids who spoke to him, which happened to be the ones cutting class out in the park. I also think he internalized my husband's verbal abuse more than the other kids, and acted out accordingly in a self-destructive way. The husband is great now, a totally different person, thank goodness, but difficult child's problems continue.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 635610, member: 18099"] I've been married to the same man for 34 years, with no divorces in either of our families, and I have two sons with criminal leanings. However, my husband had some major issues (untreated mental illness, alcoholism) until about 8 years ago, so for many of my kids' formative years we lived in various degrees of chaos. So I'm not sure if divorce per-se is a contributing factor, or maybe a chaotic family atmosphere. Then I think some kids are going to be difficult children regardless of their upbringing. I feel like my older difficult child's problems started when we moved from a small town to a large city in his freshman year of high school. I think he was overwhelmed by culture shock and latched onto the first kids who spoke to him, which happened to be the ones cutting class out in the park. I also think he internalized my husband's verbal abuse more than the other kids, and acted out accordingly in a self-destructive way. The husband is great now, a totally different person, thank goodness, but difficult child's problems continue. [/QUOTE]
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