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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 98985" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>I would not have it any other way. I am not always happy with my children's choices--I wish I was less controlling and there are many things I wish I had done differently--but I never regretted having them. </p><p></p><p>PCson---and that easy child part is just such a tricky word---basically raised himself. I was 19 when he was born. I was not ready to be a mom---but I did it. He was easy. He was/is such a perfectionist---never wanted to fail---a classic type A pesonality---that I've never really worried too much about him.I never had to punish him, he would put himself on restriction. I call him the comeback kid. He will get down and out and then suddenly--he will bounce back with a vengance. He is assertive and confident. On the other hand he can be an obnoxious jerk. When he was younger he was extremely grounded in his religious beliefs. Now, unlike your son, he is not at all interested in his faith. He is too self-reliant. He believes he can fix all of his problems if he just works harder and tries more. He is morally superior and sometimes that really bugs me. But I know that underneath his bravdo is the same young man who went and sat with his best friend's mom when she found out her husband of 30 years was having an affair and her son was away at school. He's the kid with a heart of gold and the hide of a rhino.</p><p></p><p>difficult child---he has been a struggle to raise---the years of drugs changed him. He sometimes seems to have no moral compass. He is opinionated and outspoken and have the weirdest theories. But, our conversations about life and philosophy and religion are enlightening. He sees the injustices in life more than pcson. He is deep and emotional where easy child is stoic. He is unlucky to the point of ridiculousness. If he does something wrong he is caught. And because he has a mother who insists he faces consequences and will not get him out of trouble---he is usually punished more than anyone else involved in whatever activity it is. His heart is mushy and his soul is sensitive.</p><p></p><p>PCdaughter---the middle school years were horrible. I did not like her at all. Somedays I still don't---mother/daughter dynamics + my control issues and her independent spirit. Now, she is my most independent child. She is such a hard worker. She is not academically inclined. She is very literal and blunt and too the point and will often hurt my feelings without meaning too. She doesn't understand the nuances of language---but can do a trig problem in her head! Go figure! Because of her size she looks delicate---but she is a tiger and is fierce. </p><p></p><p>It's amazing how each is so different and yet were raised exactly the same. </p><p></p><p>I love that I had a hand in giving the world three completely different personalities. It's hard as a mother to stand back now and watch them live their own lives on their own terms---something that as a mother I have to come to terms with. But Regrets, no.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 98985, member: 1436"] I would not have it any other way. I am not always happy with my children's choices--I wish I was less controlling and there are many things I wish I had done differently--but I never regretted having them. PCson---and that easy child part is just such a tricky word---basically raised himself. I was 19 when he was born. I was not ready to be a mom---but I did it. He was easy. He was/is such a perfectionist---never wanted to fail---a classic type A pesonality---that I've never really worried too much about him.I never had to punish him, he would put himself on restriction. I call him the comeback kid. He will get down and out and then suddenly--he will bounce back with a vengance. He is assertive and confident. On the other hand he can be an obnoxious jerk. When he was younger he was extremely grounded in his religious beliefs. Now, unlike your son, he is not at all interested in his faith. He is too self-reliant. He believes he can fix all of his problems if he just works harder and tries more. He is morally superior and sometimes that really bugs me. But I know that underneath his bravdo is the same young man who went and sat with his best friend's mom when she found out her husband of 30 years was having an affair and her son was away at school. He's the kid with a heart of gold and the hide of a rhino. difficult child---he has been a struggle to raise---the years of drugs changed him. He sometimes seems to have no moral compass. He is opinionated and outspoken and have the weirdest theories. But, our conversations about life and philosophy and religion are enlightening. He sees the injustices in life more than pcson. He is deep and emotional where easy child is stoic. He is unlucky to the point of ridiculousness. If he does something wrong he is caught. And because he has a mother who insists he faces consequences and will not get him out of trouble---he is usually punished more than anyone else involved in whatever activity it is. His heart is mushy and his soul is sensitive. PCdaughter---the middle school years were horrible. I did not like her at all. Somedays I still don't---mother/daughter dynamics + my control issues and her independent spirit. Now, she is my most independent child. She is such a hard worker. She is not academically inclined. She is very literal and blunt and too the point and will often hurt my feelings without meaning too. She doesn't understand the nuances of language---but can do a trig problem in her head! Go figure! Because of her size she looks delicate---but she is a tiger and is fierce. It's amazing how each is so different and yet were raised exactly the same. I love that I had a hand in giving the world three completely different personalities. It's hard as a mother to stand back now and watch them live their own lives on their own terms---something that as a mother I have to come to terms with. But Regrets, no. [/QUOTE]
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