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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 99064" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>MWM, there were times that I regretted it. I won't deny it at all. I also know that it wasn't even a choice. I was going to have children. I was going to do it to the best of my ability and I wasn't going to feel guilt that I didn't give it 100%. </p><p>They were given tools and life experiences that affected them in a positive or negative way but they always had a safety net of love and accountability.</p><p></p><p>The jury isn't in yet in regards to wondering if I had made a mistake having difficult child. He isn't done cooking.</p><p>If he has a full,healthy life for his abilities I will be satisfied. If he likes us, that's gravy. </p><p></p><p>If your son has a stable decent life, you did your job and you should feel some pride in helping him. If he is a snob, that's on him. Lots of people come from humble roots and don't feel a need to add shame on the shoulders of those who helped them.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, it speaks of his character that he can't just show respect. </p><p>It is a fantasy that by parenting children that you have their undying love and respect. If you do right by them then you did your job. When you get love, companionship, and loyalty that's the bonus. Take satisfaction of a job well done while grieving that your son chose to alienate himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 99064, member: 3"] MWM, there were times that I regretted it. I won't deny it at all. I also know that it wasn't even a choice. I was going to have children. I was going to do it to the best of my ability and I wasn't going to feel guilt that I didn't give it 100%. They were given tools and life experiences that affected them in a positive or negative way but they always had a safety net of love and accountability. The jury isn't in yet in regards to wondering if I had made a mistake having difficult child. He isn't done cooking. If he has a full,healthy life for his abilities I will be satisfied. If he likes us, that's gravy. If your son has a stable decent life, you did your job and you should feel some pride in helping him. If he is a snob, that's on him. Lots of people come from humble roots and don't feel a need to add shame on the shoulders of those who helped them. On the other hand, it speaks of his character that he can't just show respect. It is a fantasy that by parenting children that you have their undying love and respect. If you do right by them then you did your job. When you get love, companionship, and loyalty that's the bonus. Take satisfaction of a job well done while grieving that your son chose to alienate himself. [/QUOTE]
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