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ARghhhhh feeling a bit discouraged...
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 516918"><p>Thank you for the reminder that it is one day at a time for us too.....things can and do change and he may not always be where he is at now.</p><p></p><p>Nancy I so agree with you. I just don't see how he can possibily not see that subtance use has caused him many many life problems. Maybe he does.... and if he can at least see that he has to stop for now maybe he will end up stopping for a long time. </p><p></p><p>I think though that he is now convinced his mental health issues are at the root of everything and if he can just deal with those then everything will be ok and he can drink or drug again. But honestly they can't deal with the mental health issues unless he is sober and those will take some really hard work on his part. I think he is looking for a jagic bullet... and can't he see that his defiance and problems with rules is part of his problem? And if he wants to deal with his mental health issues then he needs to learn to follow the rules???</p><p></p><p>Arghhh it really is a catch-22 and the solution starts with staying sober and I am not at all sure he is committed to doing that. And if he cant follow the rules at rehab what makes him think he can follow them at a sober house?</p><p></p><p>Oy.... it just feels endless to me. And as wonderful as my husband is I doubt he is going to really address any of these issues with him in a meaningful way.... which is maybe why it is good I am not there, because I would probably try to and it would just blow up in my face! </p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 516918"] Thank you for the reminder that it is one day at a time for us too.....things can and do change and he may not always be where he is at now. Nancy I so agree with you. I just don't see how he can possibily not see that subtance use has caused him many many life problems. Maybe he does.... and if he can at least see that he has to stop for now maybe he will end up stopping for a long time. I think though that he is now convinced his mental health issues are at the root of everything and if he can just deal with those then everything will be ok and he can drink or drug again. But honestly they can't deal with the mental health issues unless he is sober and those will take some really hard work on his part. I think he is looking for a jagic bullet... and can't he see that his defiance and problems with rules is part of his problem? And if he wants to deal with his mental health issues then he needs to learn to follow the rules??? Arghhh it really is a catch-22 and the solution starts with staying sober and I am not at all sure he is committed to doing that. And if he cant follow the rules at rehab what makes him think he can follow them at a sober house? Oy.... it just feels endless to me. And as wonderful as my husband is I doubt he is going to really address any of these issues with him in a meaningful way.... which is maybe why it is good I am not there, because I would probably try to and it would just blow up in my face! TL [/QUOTE]
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