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<blockquote data-quote="Hope_Floats" data-source="post: 644563" data-attributes="member: 18310"><p>Totally agree, RE. We all have different communication styles, some more direct and some more indirect. I would hope that if, someone communicates in a more direct style than suits our sensitivities, that we would show each other some grace around that, and, given that we're all in the same boat here, assume positive intent and move on. As MWM often advises, take what you find helpful here, and leave the rest.</p><p></p><p>Thank you RE, for posting the article, even though the discussion did appear to get a little out of hand. I found the article interesting.</p><p></p><p>I especially enjoyed the new term I learned from one of the links MWM shared: Hoover, or hoovering. (<a href="http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Hoovering.html" target="_blank">Hoovers & Hoovering</a> - A Hoover is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim trying to assert their own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship, gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.) That one made me chuckle. I have experienced that, but didn't have a name to call it, other than "battered woman syndrome". I like "being hoovered" so much better. Actually, in my case, given the skill of the individual, I think it was more like a Dyson. I was dysoned, lol!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hope_Floats, post: 644563, member: 18310"] Totally agree, RE. We all have different communication styles, some more direct and some more indirect. I would hope that if, someone communicates in a more direct style than suits our sensitivities, that we would show each other some grace around that, and, given that we're all in the same boat here, assume positive intent and move on. As MWM often advises, take what you find helpful here, and leave the rest. Thank you RE, for posting the article, even though the discussion did appear to get a little out of hand. I found the article interesting. I especially enjoyed the new term I learned from one of the links MWM shared: Hoover, or hoovering. ([URL='http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Hoovering.html']Hoovers & Hoovering[/URL] - A Hoover is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim trying to assert their own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship, gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.) That one made me chuckle. I have experienced that, but didn't have a name to call it, other than "battered woman syndrome". I like "being hoovered" so much better. Actually, in my case, given the skill of the individual, I think it was more like a Dyson. I was dysoned, lol! [/QUOTE]
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