<span style='font-size: 14pt'> <span style='font-family: Georgia'> <span style="color: #663366"> again :flower: :flower: :flower: for how far you've come.
the point your son seems to go out of his way to miss is that he has the control here. all he has to do is comply with-the rules & earn his off campus pass. he still believes his manipulation & guilt trips will work on you.
i'm wondering....have you considered just not answering the phone every night. maybe only pick up two times a week....& cut the conversation off when he starts his nonsense?? a quick, "sorry you feel that way" then gee, hon, got to run....someone's at the door or another call is coming in....any reason to get off the phone quickly.
i think the easy child won't flat out say he won't let you visit is twofold. first, he's not actually saying that to you & husband. it is a recommendation. second, difficult child simply MUST realize that this is his to fix. the responsibility is squarely on his shoulders.
one last thing....when you do go to visit him REMEMBER! no gifts....no buying him things when he earns that off campus pass. that is not what visits are for after all.
you're doing good. it's natural to want to be there for him....coddle him. stay strong.
kris </span> </span> </span>
