Well, if difficult child can get you to visit against the counselor's recommendation...doesn't that put you squarely on difficult child's "side" in all this?
difficult child is where he is because he made some really bad choices. Unless he uses this time to think about why he did that, he will make the same kinds of choices, again.
You posted about difficult child in kindergarten once, CA.
This is very much like that, if you think about it.
difficult child is where he is for a reason. If you want to help him change, you have to be very clear with him about using this time productively.
He should not be crying to you now when he would not listen to you before.
These people are trying to help difficult child see a better way.
What would happen if you told difficult child that the next time he calls?
Barbara
