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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 65820" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There are big exceptions to what condition you wake up in. I have bipolar (and I'd rather have Aspergers, by the way--it's not even a contest) and I wake up at 5am and am ready to go. I annoy everyone with how well I wake up, but there is NO doubt I have a serious mood disorder, and always have had one. It had destroyed my life, made me increasingly suicidal and unable to stay out of trouble, until I was 35 and finally got on medications that helped me, and I have to take them for the rest of my life or I instantly drop. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son, while not Aspergers, is pretty much on an even keel. Weird things bother him, such as abrupt changes, and he has trouble holding a conversation. An example of a conversation with LUcas may go like this:</p><p>Me: What did you do when you were at school?</p><p>Him: Nothing. I don't want to talk about it</p><p>Me: Did you have a bad day?</p><p>Him: No.</p><p>(You get the picture)</p><p>Another variation, when he gets talkative is this:</p><p>"Did you know that Super Mario Brothers has sixty four characters and was first made in 1994? And the next game is scheduled to come out on Dec. 2, 2007. That's a year and a month after the last one came out. Did you know that Mario has a sister...?" Blahl, blahl, blah--he talks about his obsession as a one-way monologue. He is also good at memorizing television shows by rote. At school, however, he is much beloved (and this is a PUBLIC school). He is very well liked probably because of his big heart and good nature. He is mostly mainstreamed and his teachers LOVE him (this is NOT an exaggeration). He is one of the sweetest people i've ever met, and I'm not just saying that because he's my son. He will not be capable, like some Aspies, of going to college, because his life skills are poor and he's a little behind in school, even though he has an IQ tested at 107. There are some things he doesn't "get." He doesn't have much of an imagination and is an extremely concrete, literal thinker. However, some Aspies are VERY creative! Higher functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) tends to become more of a problem as a child gets older, if he hasn't had the right interventions. It really is important to keep checking out a child who may have it. While some Aspies CAN and DO function without help (see Bill Gates) it is more common that they need help. This is a long thread, but I have to give one more example. My best friend has a thirty year old Aspie, who has an IQ of 160 and is brilliant, brilliant, brilliant. But because of his rigid thinking, inability to think ouside the box, and incredible sense of fairness (coupled with lack of social skills), he has never been able to hold a job for more than six months. He is on Disability. He either gets hurt and quits his jobs or tells his bosses something about "fairness" or "unfairness" and it ticks them off, then he comes home and cries about being "worthless." This is a special, precious young man who is gifted, but doesn't 'get' social normals and cues. He was misdiagnosed for years with ADHD until age eighteen, then bipolar (two common misdx. for Aspergers). Now, at thirty, he knows he's an Aspie, but refuses all help and lives on Disability. He's married and the marriage is shaky. They are living in Low Income HOusing and she gets exasperated because he is content to watch television all day while she does everything else. There is NO one Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) person. But they all have lack of understanding social skills in common, and the vast majority of them need help in text book training social skills and usually also life skills. Only three out of one hundred ASDers can live 100% independent lives, but most can be pretty independent and the odds go up if the child is helped early. OK, vent over...lol. I wish you and your son all the luck in the world and I'd see a Neuro-psychiatric. I may add that although I never can get an Aspie diagnosis., I have lots of soft neurological signs that point to it, but I'm "too social" so they simply say I have a non-verbal learning disability, which can be just as bad. Maybe your son has that. Have you ever looked it up? It has affected MY ability to hold jobs. Many times people have more than one thing going on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 65820, member: 1550"] There are big exceptions to what condition you wake up in. I have bipolar (and I'd rather have Aspergers, by the way--it's not even a contest) and I wake up at 5am and am ready to go. I annoy everyone with how well I wake up, but there is NO doubt I have a serious mood disorder, and always have had one. It had destroyed my life, made me increasingly suicidal and unable to stay out of trouble, until I was 35 and finally got on medications that helped me, and I have to take them for the rest of my life or I instantly drop. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son, while not Aspergers, is pretty much on an even keel. Weird things bother him, such as abrupt changes, and he has trouble holding a conversation. An example of a conversation with LUcas may go like this: Me: What did you do when you were at school? Him: Nothing. I don't want to talk about it Me: Did you have a bad day? Him: No. (You get the picture) Another variation, when he gets talkative is this: "Did you know that Super Mario Brothers has sixty four characters and was first made in 1994? And the next game is scheduled to come out on Dec. 2, 2007. That's a year and a month after the last one came out. Did you know that Mario has a sister...?" Blahl, blahl, blah--he talks about his obsession as a one-way monologue. He is also good at memorizing television shows by rote. At school, however, he is much beloved (and this is a PUBLIC school). He is very well liked probably because of his big heart and good nature. He is mostly mainstreamed and his teachers LOVE him (this is NOT an exaggeration). He is one of the sweetest people i've ever met, and I'm not just saying that because he's my son. He will not be capable, like some Aspies, of going to college, because his life skills are poor and he's a little behind in school, even though he has an IQ tested at 107. There are some things he doesn't "get." He doesn't have much of an imagination and is an extremely concrete, literal thinker. However, some Aspies are VERY creative! Higher functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) tends to become more of a problem as a child gets older, if he hasn't had the right interventions. It really is important to keep checking out a child who may have it. While some Aspies CAN and DO function without help (see Bill Gates) it is more common that they need help. This is a long thread, but I have to give one more example. My best friend has a thirty year old Aspie, who has an IQ of 160 and is brilliant, brilliant, brilliant. But because of his rigid thinking, inability to think ouside the box, and incredible sense of fairness (coupled with lack of social skills), he has never been able to hold a job for more than six months. He is on Disability. He either gets hurt and quits his jobs or tells his bosses something about "fairness" or "unfairness" and it ticks them off, then he comes home and cries about being "worthless." This is a special, precious young man who is gifted, but doesn't 'get' social normals and cues. He was misdiagnosed for years with ADHD until age eighteen, then bipolar (two common misdx. for Aspergers). Now, at thirty, he knows he's an Aspie, but refuses all help and lives on Disability. He's married and the marriage is shaky. They are living in Low Income HOusing and she gets exasperated because he is content to watch television all day while she does everything else. There is NO one Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) person. But they all have lack of understanding social skills in common, and the vast majority of them need help in text book training social skills and usually also life skills. Only three out of one hundred ASDers can live 100% independent lives, but most can be pretty independent and the odds go up if the child is helped early. OK, vent over...lol. I wish you and your son all the luck in the world and I'd see a Neuro-psychiatric. I may add that although I never can get an Aspie diagnosis., I have lots of soft neurological signs that point to it, but I'm "too social" so they simply say I have a non-verbal learning disability, which can be just as bad. Maybe your son has that. Have you ever looked it up? It has affected MY ability to hold jobs. Many times people have more than one thing going on. [/QUOTE]
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