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<blockquote data-quote="Tired Mom" data-source="post: 656554" data-attributes="member: 18222"><p>Hi lovemyson1 - I don't have the answers and am struggling with a similar issue. My son went to rehab a 1,000 miles away at the end of October after overdosing on heroin. He completed a six month program and is in a halfway house until this August. Even before my son overdosed he started saying that he wanted to finish his culinary associates degree and has been consistently saying it the whole time he has been in rehab that he wants to go back to school. Initially his counselor wanted him to stay where he was for a year but then the next time they called she seemed convinced that he had a good idea of coming back and finishing his degree. I think legally now he will have to since the center he was at wrote his probation officer that they recommend that he stay there until August and she said that if that was what was clinically recommended she would approve it. For us while financially it would be tempting to have him stay with us when he comes back but I don't think I want him in our house until after his younger brother graduates from high school in 3 years if ever. We have told him that if he wants to go to school we will help him with his expenses until he graduates as long as he is clean and working and paying as much towards his expenses as he can. We have gone around on whether he should go to the school in our town or somewhere else. He's not a strong student and so academically it would be easiest for him to finish at the school he started at but I don't thing its far enough away from his old friends. Also if he is nearby I think I will be tempted to try to police his every movement like you mentioned which is just to tiring. In August we will be at 10 months in recovery with my son which is not the min 12 months everyone talks about. You may have seen more change in your son but I haven't seen drastic changes in my son. It is so hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired Mom, post: 656554, member: 18222"] Hi lovemyson1 - I don't have the answers and am struggling with a similar issue. My son went to rehab a 1,000 miles away at the end of October after overdosing on heroin. He completed a six month program and is in a halfway house until this August. Even before my son overdosed he started saying that he wanted to finish his culinary associates degree and has been consistently saying it the whole time he has been in rehab that he wants to go back to school. Initially his counselor wanted him to stay where he was for a year but then the next time they called she seemed convinced that he had a good idea of coming back and finishing his degree. I think legally now he will have to since the center he was at wrote his probation officer that they recommend that he stay there until August and she said that if that was what was clinically recommended she would approve it. For us while financially it would be tempting to have him stay with us when he comes back but I don't think I want him in our house until after his younger brother graduates from high school in 3 years if ever. We have told him that if he wants to go to school we will help him with his expenses until he graduates as long as he is clean and working and paying as much towards his expenses as he can. We have gone around on whether he should go to the school in our town or somewhere else. He's not a strong student and so academically it would be easiest for him to finish at the school he started at but I don't thing its far enough away from his old friends. Also if he is nearby I think I will be tempted to try to police his every movement like you mentioned which is just to tiring. In August we will be at 10 months in recovery with my son which is not the min 12 months everyone talks about. You may have seen more change in your son but I haven't seen drastic changes in my son. It is so hard. [/QUOTE]
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