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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 557019"><p>I have a son who is EXACTLY like that. Teachers love him. Polite. Quiet. Respectful. Always raises his hand.</p><p></p><p>Then he comes home and the real difficult child takes over. From what I have been told this happens because "home is his soft place to land" (I have grown to hate the expression, but it's really the best way to describe it). He knows that at home he is safe and loved. He has held himself together all day at school and by the time he comes home to you he is wound up tight like a rubber band until he can no longer hold it together. Then you have an explosion of all of the anxiety and fears that he managed to hold inside all day long.</p><p></p><p>Frustrating? Definately! But it's not hopeless. For a long time I thought that it was, but it's not.</p><p></p><p>My first advice to you would be to have him evaluated by a psychiatrist or a neuropsychologist who specialized in children. Tell them everything you have told us here. Make notes to remind yourself what is happening on a day to day basis. Until you know what is really going on you will never be able to get a handle on your son's behavioral problems. </p><p></p><p>Alot of us here think that ODD is a "place holder" diagnosis. They aren't really sure why the child is behaving the way he is behaving, so they slap ODD on there so that there is a diagnosis that is recognized. </p><p></p><p>The only thing that helped our son was finding the right medication for him. It took a few tries, but we found one that has helped him immensely.</p><p></p><p>Is is perfect? No, and it probably never will be, but it's better than it was. He still has bad days, but they are easier to manage.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you. Let us know how you all are doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 557019"] I have a son who is EXACTLY like that. Teachers love him. Polite. Quiet. Respectful. Always raises his hand. Then he comes home and the real difficult child takes over. From what I have been told this happens because "home is his soft place to land" (I have grown to hate the expression, but it's really the best way to describe it). He knows that at home he is safe and loved. He has held himself together all day at school and by the time he comes home to you he is wound up tight like a rubber band until he can no longer hold it together. Then you have an explosion of all of the anxiety and fears that he managed to hold inside all day long. Frustrating? Definately! But it's not hopeless. For a long time I thought that it was, but it's not. My first advice to you would be to have him evaluated by a psychiatrist or a neuropsychologist who specialized in children. Tell them everything you have told us here. Make notes to remind yourself what is happening on a day to day basis. Until you know what is really going on you will never be able to get a handle on your son's behavioral problems. Alot of us here think that ODD is a "place holder" diagnosis. They aren't really sure why the child is behaving the way he is behaving, so they slap ODD on there so that there is a diagnosis that is recognized. The only thing that helped our son was finding the right medication for him. It took a few tries, but we found one that has helped him immensely. Is is perfect? No, and it probably never will be, but it's better than it was. He still has bad days, but they are easier to manage. Good luck to you. Let us know how you all are doing. [/QUOTE]
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