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At the end of my tether. Am I imagining this?!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 589142" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am mostly on board here with buddy. Your child has a lot of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) traits. I would get him evaluated so he can get help early. If you can afford it, you probably would do better going private for testing, however in the US we also have long waiting lists for the kind of evaluations we are talking about. There are a lot of parents who want to know what is wrong with their children and not enough neuropsychs who do evaluations. And many professionals, even in mental health or neurology, really don't know how to sort out the different disorders. </p><p></p><p>Since i've been on this board, I have noticed that in the US and Canada it is easier to get a diagnosis than in Europe. I'm sure there are cultural reasons for that. So whatever you are told, I would take all the help you are offered and run with it. Your son will probably will be unlikely to respond to "normal" parenting methods and you'll have to see what works for him. These differently wired kids are real challenges. There are rewards too, if you use interventions and hang in there. But they can be exhausting and worrying, especially before you have a professional plan (and often a school plan as well, once school starts).</p><p></p><p>One last word: Your son isn't having "spoiled" tantrums. He's not spoiled. He is probably overstimulated by a lot of people or lights or loud noise and has meltdowns when he is out. For my son, we just stopped taking him out when we could. One of us would stay home with him. In time, he learned to be out and be fine with it. He is nineteen now and many of his old troubling behaviors are way gone. But it took a lot of time and work both on our part and mostly on his. He is now the sweetest young adult you could meet and although some adults with differently wired brains act out and even tantrum, not all do. My son has not had a meltdown for so many years that I couildn't tell you the last time. It could happen to your son too.</p><p></p><p>I wish you luck. I'm glad to "meet" you too, although I'm sorry you had to come here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 589142, member: 1550"] I am mostly on board here with buddy. Your child has a lot of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) traits. I would get him evaluated so he can get help early. If you can afford it, you probably would do better going private for testing, however in the US we also have long waiting lists for the kind of evaluations we are talking about. There are a lot of parents who want to know what is wrong with their children and not enough neuropsychs who do evaluations. And many professionals, even in mental health or neurology, really don't know how to sort out the different disorders. Since i've been on this board, I have noticed that in the US and Canada it is easier to get a diagnosis than in Europe. I'm sure there are cultural reasons for that. So whatever you are told, I would take all the help you are offered and run with it. Your son will probably will be unlikely to respond to "normal" parenting methods and you'll have to see what works for him. These differently wired kids are real challenges. There are rewards too, if you use interventions and hang in there. But they can be exhausting and worrying, especially before you have a professional plan (and often a school plan as well, once school starts). One last word: Your son isn't having "spoiled" tantrums. He's not spoiled. He is probably overstimulated by a lot of people or lights or loud noise and has meltdowns when he is out. For my son, we just stopped taking him out when we could. One of us would stay home with him. In time, he learned to be out and be fine with it. He is nineteen now and many of his old troubling behaviors are way gone. But it took a lot of time and work both on our part and mostly on his. He is now the sweetest young adult you could meet and although some adults with differently wired brains act out and even tantrum, not all do. My son has not had a meltdown for so many years that I couildn't tell you the last time. It could happen to your son too. I wish you luck. I'm glad to "meet" you too, although I'm sorry you had to come here. [/QUOTE]
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