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At what age can you trust them at home alone?
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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 326711" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Age is not a factor when it comes to our difficult children!</p><p> </p><p>I've been able to leave my difficult child, 14, alone for a couple years now. But it started with small trials and clear expectations. Most of what your difficult child did are pretty typical of a boy that age and not just gfgish. A 14 year old boy is going to search out porn, they are going to eat you out of house and home, and they are going to turn a blind eye to their mess. The airsoft being shot in the house - hmm, that's not good especially if you have pets. My difficult child can have his gun in the house, but it doesn't get loaded or shot in the house - that's a "take it and hold it for awhile" offense around here.</p><p> </p><p>I think you give him the opportnity to be alone by speaking to him opening and honestly about the porn (difficult child's therapist told me that I should talk to difficult child about the degrading aspects of internet porn and then leave out the Victoria's Secret catalog - at that age it'll work the same!!!!), about cleaning up after himself, about being responsible in regards to the food that is expected to feed the entire family, etc. I think you let him know that he really is old enough to be home alone. You need him to show you that he is maturing and you an trust him. Set the expectations clearly and the consequences realisticly and give him another opportunity. </p><p> </p><p>What happens during holiday break? Are they going to be alone? If so, start that discussion now!</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 326711, member: 805"] Age is not a factor when it comes to our difficult children! I've been able to leave my difficult child, 14, alone for a couple years now. But it started with small trials and clear expectations. Most of what your difficult child did are pretty typical of a boy that age and not just gfgish. A 14 year old boy is going to search out porn, they are going to eat you out of house and home, and they are going to turn a blind eye to their mess. The airsoft being shot in the house - hmm, that's not good especially if you have pets. My difficult child can have his gun in the house, but it doesn't get loaded or shot in the house - that's a "take it and hold it for awhile" offense around here. I think you give him the opportnity to be alone by speaking to him opening and honestly about the porn (difficult child's therapist told me that I should talk to difficult child about the degrading aspects of internet porn and then leave out the Victoria's Secret catalog - at that age it'll work the same!!!!), about cleaning up after himself, about being responsible in regards to the food that is expected to feed the entire family, etc. I think you let him know that he really is old enough to be home alone. You need him to show you that he is maturing and you an trust him. Set the expectations clearly and the consequences realisticly and give him another opportunity. What happens during holiday break? Are they going to be alone? If so, start that discussion now! Sharon [/QUOTE]
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