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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 200762" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>What professionals are involved in his life? I mean psychiatrists, therapists, attachment specialists, whatever? Do you feel they are the right people to reach him?</p><p> </p><p>My son did this. Not the threats, but going for your weak spot - both physically and emotionally. My husband called it the "sick gazelle syndrome". He meant that Wiz thought like a lion and would go for the weakest person/spot (sick gazelle) to attack.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, as far as police, it seems like it would be worth a try. Some members here have had terrible luck with the police. WE had great luck. There are MANY placements and supports that are ONLY available through the courts. That means you have to go through the police.</p><p> </p><p>I know your son is sick. Mentally ill, I mean. You really NEED a psychiatrist (psychiatrist) on board as well as the therapists. Your son truly doesn't WANT to hurt people. Something is misfiring in his brain, or otherwise just not operating correctly. Finding that problem will help the violence. Medication may well also be needed. DO NOT let a reg pediatrician prescribe this. Your son NEEDS a specialist to handle this.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I am very sorry that the whole family is living in fear of this child. I have been there done that to some extent. And it started way before age 7, as I am sure your son's did also.</p><p> </p><p>Check into Occupational therapy (Occupational Therapist (OT)) to see if there are any issues there. Often brushing therapy can help greatly.</p><p> </p><p>As far as the police, they will want to find help/answers also. At least that was OUR experience. You may have to push the police to get them to do the paperwork to press charges. But it is better to press charges and get help (psychiatric inpatient would be best, from what I am reading) NOW than later when he is big enough to overpower you. Or when he is old enough to be tried as an adult and his records cannot be sealed. Anything done NOW can be sealed when he reaches 18. That will GREATLY help him and you don't want to wait so long that he hospitalized one of you and the records cannot be sealed and he can be tried as an adult and put into an adult facility. THIS is why he needs to be helped/charged/whatever NOW.</p><p> </p><p>I am crying for you now, as I remember the turmoil and hate my Wiz went through.</p><p> </p><p>To give you hope: Wiz will be 17 in Nov. Will graduate High School in May. Will have another year of vocational school to become a machinist (using big computers to tell big machines how to make things is HIS description of what he is learning!). He hugs and kisses me. Is a great big bro and cousin. Has APOLOGIZED to me, Jess, thank you, husband, and his grandparents for the things he did. He is planning to work as a machinist to put himself through college to learn something I don't understand about drama (not acting, but behind the scenes stuff). My son has a FUTURE. And it is mostly because I had the sheriff's deputy remove him from our home. (He lives with my parents in the same city we live in.)</p><p> </p><p>There is HOPE. And the police may very well be able to help you find the HELP you need to reach the hope. </p><p> </p><p>I will say that I think your son needs placement out of your home in a psychiatric hospital (psychiatric hospital) for a long term stay. NOT a 3 day stay, but longer so he can really get help. NOT that he will never be able to live with you, but that right now he needs more structure and intensive therapy than he can reach in your home (or that anyone else could provide him in home.)</p><p> </p><p>I am sorry to say that. But I have been there done that and SEEN how it can help. My Wiz has THANKED me for putting him in the psychiatric hospital for 4 months, and for taking him back for 2 acute stays (3 days) because he knows he NEEDED the help.</p><p> </p><p>I am sending prayers. Also sorry this is so long.</p><p> </p><p>hugs!</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 200762, member: 1233"] What professionals are involved in his life? I mean psychiatrists, therapists, attachment specialists, whatever? Do you feel they are the right people to reach him? My son did this. Not the threats, but going for your weak spot - both physically and emotionally. My husband called it the "sick gazelle syndrome". He meant that Wiz thought like a lion and would go for the weakest person/spot (sick gazelle) to attack. Anyway, as far as police, it seems like it would be worth a try. Some members here have had terrible luck with the police. WE had great luck. There are MANY placements and supports that are ONLY available through the courts. That means you have to go through the police. I know your son is sick. Mentally ill, I mean. You really NEED a psychiatrist (psychiatrist) on board as well as the therapists. Your son truly doesn't WANT to hurt people. Something is misfiring in his brain, or otherwise just not operating correctly. Finding that problem will help the violence. Medication may well also be needed. DO NOT let a reg pediatrician prescribe this. Your son NEEDS a specialist to handle this. Anyway, I am very sorry that the whole family is living in fear of this child. I have been there done that to some extent. And it started way before age 7, as I am sure your son's did also. Check into Occupational therapy (Occupational Therapist (OT)) to see if there are any issues there. Often brushing therapy can help greatly. As far as the police, they will want to find help/answers also. At least that was OUR experience. You may have to push the police to get them to do the paperwork to press charges. But it is better to press charges and get help (psychiatric inpatient would be best, from what I am reading) NOW than later when he is big enough to overpower you. Or when he is old enough to be tried as an adult and his records cannot be sealed. Anything done NOW can be sealed when he reaches 18. That will GREATLY help him and you don't want to wait so long that he hospitalized one of you and the records cannot be sealed and he can be tried as an adult and put into an adult facility. THIS is why he needs to be helped/charged/whatever NOW. I am crying for you now, as I remember the turmoil and hate my Wiz went through. To give you hope: Wiz will be 17 in Nov. Will graduate High School in May. Will have another year of vocational school to become a machinist (using big computers to tell big machines how to make things is HIS description of what he is learning!). He hugs and kisses me. Is a great big bro and cousin. Has APOLOGIZED to me, Jess, thank you, husband, and his grandparents for the things he did. He is planning to work as a machinist to put himself through college to learn something I don't understand about drama (not acting, but behind the scenes stuff). My son has a FUTURE. And it is mostly because I had the sheriff's deputy remove him from our home. (He lives with my parents in the same city we live in.) There is HOPE. And the police may very well be able to help you find the HELP you need to reach the hope. I will say that I think your son needs placement out of your home in a psychiatric hospital (psychiatric hospital) for a long term stay. NOT a 3 day stay, but longer so he can really get help. NOT that he will never be able to live with you, but that right now he needs more structure and intensive therapy than he can reach in your home (or that anyone else could provide him in home.) I am sorry to say that. But I have been there done that and SEEN how it can help. My Wiz has THANKED me for putting him in the psychiatric hospital for 4 months, and for taking him back for 2 acute stays (3 days) because he knows he NEEDED the help. I am sending prayers. Also sorry this is so long. hugs! Susie [/QUOTE]
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