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<blockquote data-quote="Woofens" data-source="post: 200779" data-attributes="member: 4425"><p>Susie,</p><p></p><p>I cried when I read your post, not because it upset me, but because I had already had the thought that he is too out of control now to be helped by us, and that he would probably need to be placed somewhere for long term treatment. </p><p></p><p>When I first put difficult child 2 into the juvenile system (unruly) when we went to court the first time, I had to tell them everything that had led up to us being there. When I laid it all out, it was overwhelming. At the time I hadn't looked at the big picture, just each incident by itself. I guess I've been doing the same thing with difficult child 1. I can explain away the problems on a day to day basis, but when I look at the whole picture I kick myself for not doing something sooner. </p><p></p><p>As of this moment, the only people involved are his pediatrician, and the therapist they assigned to him at the Behavioral Health System. We are working on getting him into see a psychiatrist. I'm not so sure I'm comfortable with his therapist, he wouldn't even listen to the recording I have a difficult child in once of his outbursts when we were there. Told me maybe next time. We have only had 1 visit with him though, we go back on 10/15, so I was giving it time before giving up on the therapist. </p><p></p><p>I know that we need help. Calling the crisis line seemed to me like I was admitting that I'm a lousy parent because I can't control my child. My family doesn't understand, they think that if I smack his bottom enough he will shape up. My mom has my oldest difficult child because she thought I was the reason he was such a wreck. When I had him he was enrolled in school, and at least attending on a semi regular basis (failing but in school) since he has been with her, he has tried and dropped out of an online school and is not attending school at all, is jobless and has no plans for the future. His only concern is how to keep gasoline in his motorcycle which I was against him getting, my mother let him have it. I did pay for the insurance and registration and plates on the bike, but I hoped he would get a job. I'm still hoping. </p><p></p><p>Since you have been there done that, what happened after Wiz's inpatient stay? I'm so afraid difficult child will think that we've abandoned him (6 seems so young). What about school work during the inpatient stay? difficult child does seem to have some attachment issues, which doesn't make any sense to me since I have been a stay at home mom since before he was born. The only times I have been away from him for more than a few hours was when easy child 1 had her surgery in 9-2004 (difficult child was 3) we were in the hospital for a total of 31 days out of 35, 10 days in 2007 when I went to Iowa for a visit with my best friend, and in 6-2008 when I went back to Iowa to help that friend when her father passed away. I used to take him everywhere with me. </p><p></p><p>We are on the other side of the state from Cincy. We are in OH but only an hour from Pittsburgh PA. With our insurance, going out of state for treatment is a PITA. Cincy is about 4-5 hours away.</p><p></p><p>I'll know more tomorrow AM after phone calls. Right now, difficult child 2 is here I have to take him to the ER because he wrecked the above mentioned motorcycle. Not seriously, possibly broken ankle and some burns from the muffler Sigh.. it never ends does it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Woofens, post: 200779, member: 4425"] Susie, I cried when I read your post, not because it upset me, but because I had already had the thought that he is too out of control now to be helped by us, and that he would probably need to be placed somewhere for long term treatment. When I first put difficult child 2 into the juvenile system (unruly) when we went to court the first time, I had to tell them everything that had led up to us being there. When I laid it all out, it was overwhelming. At the time I hadn't looked at the big picture, just each incident by itself. I guess I've been doing the same thing with difficult child 1. I can explain away the problems on a day to day basis, but when I look at the whole picture I kick myself for not doing something sooner. As of this moment, the only people involved are his pediatrician, and the therapist they assigned to him at the Behavioral Health System. We are working on getting him into see a psychiatrist. I'm not so sure I'm comfortable with his therapist, he wouldn't even listen to the recording I have a difficult child in once of his outbursts when we were there. Told me maybe next time. We have only had 1 visit with him though, we go back on 10/15, so I was giving it time before giving up on the therapist. I know that we need help. Calling the crisis line seemed to me like I was admitting that I'm a lousy parent because I can't control my child. My family doesn't understand, they think that if I smack his bottom enough he will shape up. My mom has my oldest difficult child because she thought I was the reason he was such a wreck. When I had him he was enrolled in school, and at least attending on a semi regular basis (failing but in school) since he has been with her, he has tried and dropped out of an online school and is not attending school at all, is jobless and has no plans for the future. His only concern is how to keep gasoline in his motorcycle which I was against him getting, my mother let him have it. I did pay for the insurance and registration and plates on the bike, but I hoped he would get a job. I'm still hoping. Since you have been there done that, what happened after Wiz's inpatient stay? I'm so afraid difficult child will think that we've abandoned him (6 seems so young). What about school work during the inpatient stay? difficult child does seem to have some attachment issues, which doesn't make any sense to me since I have been a stay at home mom since before he was born. The only times I have been away from him for more than a few hours was when easy child 1 had her surgery in 9-2004 (difficult child was 3) we were in the hospital for a total of 31 days out of 35, 10 days in 2007 when I went to Iowa for a visit with my best friend, and in 6-2008 when I went back to Iowa to help that friend when her father passed away. I used to take him everywhere with me. We are on the other side of the state from Cincy. We are in OH but only an hour from Pittsburgh PA. With our insurance, going out of state for treatment is a PITA. Cincy is about 4-5 hours away. I'll know more tomorrow AM after phone calls. Right now, difficult child 2 is here I have to take him to the ER because he wrecked the above mentioned motorcycle. Not seriously, possibly broken ankle and some burns from the muffler Sigh.. it never ends does it? [/QUOTE]
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