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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 421747" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Welcome and I hope you continue to find this place relaxing. I do as well-I tend to come more when I'm stressed to find inspiration and calm.</p><p>Husbands-Mine is a good man who works hard outside the home. He too comes home and would sleep but has to be directed in order for me to get his help-even after 25 years and lots of counseling. He just needs it and we have worked that out. However he use to "bluster" and complain at me when he was younger. (counselor fixed that) He wont read a book either, but has learned that if he wont educate himself, I will educate him. I use to make him come to parenting classes I was teaching for a number of years. I also get videos and use Youtube for him. He has learned to back me all the way and he is good at following through once he knows where we are headed with difficult child. He also praises me and tells me how thankful he is for me-I did have to ask for this as well. He can play the good cop at times when we need the good cop/bad cop routine. We have worked it out over the years. Our difficult child has about killed us-she is just so mentally ill (serious PTSD and other things) and she is now in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF).</p><p> </p><p>I know about exhaustion-when my oldest was little I taught full-time and worked on a Masters. My husband worked nights so it was just me dealing with a difficult child. We were poor and over worked. I did hire a babysitter-teenage girls seem to be so good at handling even our tough kids-they are willing to play and engage them. If you find the right one-just a few hours can be a god send. I used the time to write papers and do school work. I always got a real relaxing bath as well. Just a couple of hours a week. I recommend it highly. I found our girl at church-even if you dont go, that might be a place to post a request. Also many local high school have child development classes-maybe you could find one there? Just an idea. Take at least 1 night class in the fall-don't wait to finish. You need the intellectual stimulation.</p><p> </p><p>I agree with the others that you should look closer at those medications. Take care and keep posting-you are not alone and you can survive this. Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 421747, member: 11001"] Welcome and I hope you continue to find this place relaxing. I do as well-I tend to come more when I'm stressed to find inspiration and calm. Husbands-Mine is a good man who works hard outside the home. He too comes home and would sleep but has to be directed in order for me to get his help-even after 25 years and lots of counseling. He just needs it and we have worked that out. However he use to "bluster" and complain at me when he was younger. (counselor fixed that) He wont read a book either, but has learned that if he wont educate himself, I will educate him. I use to make him come to parenting classes I was teaching for a number of years. I also get videos and use Youtube for him. He has learned to back me all the way and he is good at following through once he knows where we are headed with difficult child. He also praises me and tells me how thankful he is for me-I did have to ask for this as well. He can play the good cop at times when we need the good cop/bad cop routine. We have worked it out over the years. Our difficult child has about killed us-she is just so mentally ill (serious PTSD and other things) and she is now in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). I know about exhaustion-when my oldest was little I taught full-time and worked on a Masters. My husband worked nights so it was just me dealing with a difficult child. We were poor and over worked. I did hire a babysitter-teenage girls seem to be so good at handling even our tough kids-they are willing to play and engage them. If you find the right one-just a few hours can be a god send. I used the time to write papers and do school work. I always got a real relaxing bath as well. Just a couple of hours a week. I recommend it highly. I found our girl at church-even if you dont go, that might be a place to post a request. Also many local high school have child development classes-maybe you could find one there? Just an idea. Take at least 1 night class in the fall-don't wait to finish. You need the intellectual stimulation. I agree with the others that you should look closer at those medications. Take care and keep posting-you are not alone and you can survive this. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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