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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 326005" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>So, to be brief, and as you know, the group home Matt is in has cut down our weekly communication, from daily to once a week. Their thought was that Matt was too dependent on me, and not others. They wanted him to "trust" other people, and not just me in his life.</p><p></p><p>So now that that has taken place, the opposite seems to be occurring. Matt will not talk to me about anything important on our one family session a week - but yet now he is talking to his counselor about it. So, for example, last week he had confided in his counselor about an issue he had had, and the counselor brought it up as a topic for us to discuss on the family call, and Matt would not discuss it. </p><p></p><p>Any ideas? I think it is truly interesting, since the program thought this was all about Matt and me, and our dysfunctional relationship. Yet now he is repeating the same patterns of distrust, only with me, the one he supposedly trusts the most. </p><p></p><p>Do you think he just won't bring things up that are potentially embarrassing to him in a "group forum", and that is why he does not want to tell me in family therapy? Or do you think he just can only trust one person at a time?</p><p></p><p>I know he has big attachment issues, just because of his dad abandoning him over and over - but I really do not know how that has played out in his life. To have a true attachment disorder you need to not have had any parental love for a period of time, I thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 326005, member: 3301"] So, to be brief, and as you know, the group home Matt is in has cut down our weekly communication, from daily to once a week. Their thought was that Matt was too dependent on me, and not others. They wanted him to "trust" other people, and not just me in his life. So now that that has taken place, the opposite seems to be occurring. Matt will not talk to me about anything important on our one family session a week - but yet now he is talking to his counselor about it. So, for example, last week he had confided in his counselor about an issue he had had, and the counselor brought it up as a topic for us to discuss on the family call, and Matt would not discuss it. Any ideas? I think it is truly interesting, since the program thought this was all about Matt and me, and our dysfunctional relationship. Yet now he is repeating the same patterns of distrust, only with me, the one he supposedly trusts the most. Do you think he just won't bring things up that are potentially embarrassing to him in a "group forum", and that is why he does not want to tell me in family therapy? Or do you think he just can only trust one person at a time? I know he has big attachment issues, just because of his dad abandoning him over and over - but I really do not know how that has played out in his life. To have a true attachment disorder you need to not have had any parental love for a period of time, I thought. [/QUOTE]
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