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Attachment therapy? What is it? Do all adopted kids need it?
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<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 401913" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>frazzled--As people have talked about on another recent adoption thread, at a minimum most adoptees have self esteem issues stemming from the fact that they were placed that need addressing at some point. Whether or not such issues contributed to dysfunctional behavior is another whole ball of wax, and those self esteem type issues (for lack of a better word) are certainly not the same as attachment issues. </p><p></p><p>This whole experience has thrown me for a loop not sure why. A bunch of different actors in the school system with different agendas that I only half understand, lack of understanding on part of school district, patronizing/anger on part of district, and then underlying all that real worry about what the future holds for my son. I think actually the school district has done a pretty good job on the education front, but as we get closer to adulthood and kids start having much more independence and maturity and I see my son lagging, I think how are we going to negotiate this so that he stays out of trouble but has a reasonable adolesence with friends and activities with the supervision he needs. </p><p></p><p>You know I am thinking about a possible private placement -- but don't want him to be with conduct disordered kids, what I want is for him to be with "good" kids who just need more supervision and help negotiating social challenges but in ways that he can have still have normal fun. Right now we have a kid that isn't in trouble, isn't doing drugs, is doing well enough at school, but isn't anywhere near as mature as his peers and isn't certainly being granted the same freedoms. </p><p></p><p>So I will have to summon my courage and best behavior --calm voice and eye contact as Jo has said to deal with the uninformed and patronizing school. REally I am too old for this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 401913, member: 2322"] frazzled--As people have talked about on another recent adoption thread, at a minimum most adoptees have self esteem issues stemming from the fact that they were placed that need addressing at some point. Whether or not such issues contributed to dysfunctional behavior is another whole ball of wax, and those self esteem type issues (for lack of a better word) are certainly not the same as attachment issues. This whole experience has thrown me for a loop not sure why. A bunch of different actors in the school system with different agendas that I only half understand, lack of understanding on part of school district, patronizing/anger on part of district, and then underlying all that real worry about what the future holds for my son. I think actually the school district has done a pretty good job on the education front, but as we get closer to adulthood and kids start having much more independence and maturity and I see my son lagging, I think how are we going to negotiate this so that he stays out of trouble but has a reasonable adolesence with friends and activities with the supervision he needs. You know I am thinking about a possible private placement -- but don't want him to be with conduct disordered kids, what I want is for him to be with "good" kids who just need more supervision and help negotiating social challenges but in ways that he can have still have normal fun. Right now we have a kid that isn't in trouble, isn't doing drugs, is doing well enough at school, but isn't anywhere near as mature as his peers and isn't certainly being granted the same freedoms. So I will have to summon my courage and best behavior --calm voice and eye contact as Jo has said to deal with the uninformed and patronizing school. REally I am too old for this. [/QUOTE]
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