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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 387403" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Actually, since I "train" my dogs pretty much the same way I care for and raise up a very young child it makes sense Susie.</p><p></p><p>A child doesn't usually do things to be bad or irritate on purpose. Some of it's learned behavior that was rewarded (even unintentionally) so it paid off, some of it can just be something they can't control, some of it is testing boundaries and limitations and the rules.</p><p></p><p>Only Evan has made me re-think this. lol But not really. He will look both parents in the eye and tell them he'll do as he pleases and dare them openly to stop him. Katie will put him in time out. Doesn't phase him. And she's not always consistant about making him stay there the full time either which makes it non effective. Dad just ignores him or half heartedly tells him to stop. Sibs have been taught to give in to him because he's the "baby" (at almost 5 yrs old seriously?) If he does something wrong and they're not at school it's Kayla and Alex's fault. Haven't quite figured that one out yet. No discipline his parents put into place works. None. They know it going in so are less firm about standing their ground. Too much work I guess.</p><p></p><p>Nana is sooooo a different story. Nana gives no warning to Evan. He's caught doing something and I swoop in, handle it in whatever appropriate way, am firm and confident and it's over. Done. And he's left standing with his mouth hanging open 99 percent of the time. lol He's discovered refusal to wear the seat belt in Nana's car means Nana's car does not move. Acting up in Nana's car gets the car stopped, situation handled, then we move on. Nana puts him in time out he does not move, does not talk, or his does not get up, even if Nana has to hold him on her lap the entire time and force him to sit there.</p><p></p><p>Evan's motivation? Parental attention and a desperate need for rules and limitations. Evan has learned that Nana is no nonsense and can out stubborn him in a heartbeat. I'm also consistant, my rules don't change depending on my mood or how I'm feeling on any given day. Evan doesn't mess with Nana. lol <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>But if his parents don't get their act together quickly he's going to have a diagnosis of ODD and ADHD really soon. I see it in his near future. And he's not even hyper. They keep him in bed most of the day while they "sleep in" while the others are in school.......I mean he's not an infant.......what's he supposed to do with all that energy that is not being burned off? sheesh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 387403, member: 84"] Actually, since I "train" my dogs pretty much the same way I care for and raise up a very young child it makes sense Susie. A child doesn't usually do things to be bad or irritate on purpose. Some of it's learned behavior that was rewarded (even unintentionally) so it paid off, some of it can just be something they can't control, some of it is testing boundaries and limitations and the rules. Only Evan has made me re-think this. lol But not really. He will look both parents in the eye and tell them he'll do as he pleases and dare them openly to stop him. Katie will put him in time out. Doesn't phase him. And she's not always consistant about making him stay there the full time either which makes it non effective. Dad just ignores him or half heartedly tells him to stop. Sibs have been taught to give in to him because he's the "baby" (at almost 5 yrs old seriously?) If he does something wrong and they're not at school it's Kayla and Alex's fault. Haven't quite figured that one out yet. No discipline his parents put into place works. None. They know it going in so are less firm about standing their ground. Too much work I guess. Nana is sooooo a different story. Nana gives no warning to Evan. He's caught doing something and I swoop in, handle it in whatever appropriate way, am firm and confident and it's over. Done. And he's left standing with his mouth hanging open 99 percent of the time. lol He's discovered refusal to wear the seat belt in Nana's car means Nana's car does not move. Acting up in Nana's car gets the car stopped, situation handled, then we move on. Nana puts him in time out he does not move, does not talk, or his does not get up, even if Nana has to hold him on her lap the entire time and force him to sit there. Evan's motivation? Parental attention and a desperate need for rules and limitations. Evan has learned that Nana is no nonsense and can out stubborn him in a heartbeat. I'm also consistant, my rules don't change depending on my mood or how I'm feeling on any given day. Evan doesn't mess with Nana. lol :winking: But if his parents don't get their act together quickly he's going to have a diagnosis of ODD and ADHD really soon. I see it in his near future. And he's not even hyper. They keep him in bed most of the day while they "sleep in" while the others are in school.......I mean he's not an infant.......what's he supposed to do with all that energy that is not being burned off? sheesh [/QUOTE]
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