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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 9316"><p>Sara FYI Masta is Australian so it could be an Australian term.</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion ... she should see the best therapist you can find for her, whatever that person's education or credentials. In terms of medications, I'd definitely have a psychiatrist do that, and maybe a psychiatrist who treats adults, not kids.</p><p></p><p>What I'm suggesting is group therapy in addition to the individual. It's often difficult to get into a DBT skills therapy group for a variety of reasons. Her therapist should recommend her for it and help her find one that will take her. It's really std treatment for Borderline (BPD) as far as I know. I was in it because I'm a depressive and there were several other diagnosis in the group I was in. She wouldn't get into the one I was in because of the cognitive issues, but there are all kinds of DBT skills groups. I, and a heck of a lot of others, find it helpful. But she MUST have individual every week to stay in the group. Std stuff for adults, not kids to my knowledge. That's why she hasn't done it before.</p><p></p><p>If the state is going to support her till she's 21 then I'd hold off the SSI application until age 20. By then she'll have an even longer list of jobs. But do keep track of them, including dates, reasons she left, etc. Thing is, at 21 state will say bye and she'll be on the streets. Sure, they should do transition stuff with her before then, it's their job. But bottom line is that when the state walks out you're it. If you have the SSI in place (which comes with Medicaid), you should be able to find a group home, roommate supported living apt, or some other program for adults like her. Frankly, you might want to look around now and put her name on waiting lists. The good places usually have waiting lists. Having her move from state place to a supported living setting will keep her from your doorstep and everything you, your husband and younger ones went through 2 years ago. She can still work on SSI, just can't earn a lot. If she moves jobs a lot that won't be a problem.</p><p></p><p>I hear you on the waiver of public aid. I know that was there a couple of years ago. But you should again check with a immigration lawyer re SSI. I don't see legally how SSI could refuse her on the basis of something YOU and husband agreed to. SHE has to make her own immigration/ citizenship choices at 18 as you point out. SHE didn't agree to forego public benefits. With a green card she qualifies. Just FYI as I assume you're not familiar with SSI... it's not the monthly cash that she needs so much as the Medicaid (no job, no medication insur) and the housing. Many of the supported living places take most of the SSI cash as their payment for housing and Medicaid for the "supported" help.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/ssa.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=102&amp;p_created=955552395&amp;p_sid=*G7ArIri&amp;p_accessibility=0&amp;p_lva=&amp;p_sp=cF9zcmNoPTEmcF9zb3J0X2J5PSZwX2dyaWRzb3J0PSZwX3Jvd19jbnQ9MzQmcF9wcm9kcz0mcF9jYXRzPSZwX3B2PSZwX2N2PTEuNDgmcF9wYWdlPTI*&amp;p_li=&amp;p_topview=1" target="_blank">http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/ssa....amp;p_topview=1</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 9316"] Sara FYI Masta is Australian so it could be an Australian term. in my humble opinion ... she should see the best therapist you can find for her, whatever that person's education or credentials. In terms of medications, I'd definitely have a psychiatrist do that, and maybe a psychiatrist who treats adults, not kids. What I'm suggesting is group therapy in addition to the individual. It's often difficult to get into a DBT skills therapy group for a variety of reasons. Her therapist should recommend her for it and help her find one that will take her. It's really std treatment for Borderline (BPD) as far as I know. I was in it because I'm a depressive and there were several other diagnosis in the group I was in. She wouldn't get into the one I was in because of the cognitive issues, but there are all kinds of DBT skills groups. I, and a heck of a lot of others, find it helpful. But she MUST have individual every week to stay in the group. Std stuff for adults, not kids to my knowledge. That's why she hasn't done it before. If the state is going to support her till she's 21 then I'd hold off the SSI application until age 20. By then she'll have an even longer list of jobs. But do keep track of them, including dates, reasons she left, etc. Thing is, at 21 state will say bye and she'll be on the streets. Sure, they should do transition stuff with her before then, it's their job. But bottom line is that when the state walks out you're it. If you have the SSI in place (which comes with Medicaid), you should be able to find a group home, roommate supported living apt, or some other program for adults like her. Frankly, you might want to look around now and put her name on waiting lists. The good places usually have waiting lists. Having her move from state place to a supported living setting will keep her from your doorstep and everything you, your husband and younger ones went through 2 years ago. She can still work on SSI, just can't earn a lot. If she moves jobs a lot that won't be a problem. I hear you on the waiver of public aid. I know that was there a couple of years ago. But you should again check with a immigration lawyer re SSI. I don't see legally how SSI could refuse her on the basis of something YOU and husband agreed to. SHE has to make her own immigration/ citizenship choices at 18 as you point out. SHE didn't agree to forego public benefits. With a green card she qualifies. Just FYI as I assume you're not familiar with SSI... it's not the monthly cash that she needs so much as the Medicaid (no job, no medication insur) and the housing. Many of the supported living places take most of the SSI cash as their payment for housing and Medicaid for the "supported" help. [url="http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/ssa.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=102&p_created=955552395&p_sid=*G7ArIri&p_accessibility=0&p_lva=&p_sp=cF9zcmNoPTEmcF9zb3J0X2J5PSZwX2dyaWRzb3J0PSZwX3Jvd19jbnQ9MzQmcF9wcm9kcz0mcF9jYXRzPSZwX3B2PSZwX2N2PTEuNDgmcF9wYWdlPTI*&p_li=&p_topview=1"]http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/ssa....amp;p_topview=1[/url] [/QUOTE]
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