Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Auditory Hallucinations
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 457955"><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Mostly venting, but if you have any ideas to help I'd really like to hear them.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Well new perspective. I learned on the internet last night that while very rare anxiety can cause hallucinations. Monday right after visitation difficult child 1 hears voices. His behavior gets increasing worse during the week. Right before the next visitation he melts down.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">"NO I'M NOT GOING TO X's HOUSE. HE's SCARY!"</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">I try to get him to tell me why X is scary. (I'm not disagreeing with him; to me X is one straw short of satan, but I do not let difficult child 1 see that is what I think.). difficult child 1 will not tell me why X is scary. More questions just lead to more yelling. I stop questioning him and call the drop-off place to give them the heads up and hopefully get some help. No help. I call difficult child 1's therapist, but its Friday right before 5pm; no one there. difficult child 1 has a very good relationship with my mom. I call her.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">difficult child 1 opens up to her and talks about X. difficult child 1 is scared about X moving. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">X has been saying for the last 6 months that he is going to move. Move to a dirty, mouse infested place 45 min from the nearest neighbors (the nearest neighbors are X's parents.) Its in the middle of a dessert. Coyotes come right up to the windows. The cats difficult child 1 loves keep disappearing and he found the skeleton of one. There are rattlesnakes all over. Mice all over (we worry about haunta virus.) No electricity, no phone, no running water, no heat, no air conditioning. He hates his cousins. They don't have rules and aren't nice. difficult child 1 needs rules. He needs to know what to expect from peoples behavior.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">X has a m/o. He moves to the city to find a wife. He targets young (early 20's) single moms of special needs kids. After awhile he moves them to a place where no one can hear them scream. Then the abuse which was bad before gets life threatening. Then the wife leaves (so far he hasn't managed to kill one, but he has come close.) Then he moves back to a city and it all starts again.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">This house he says he is moving to is one of the places he moves the wife to. His family owns it. He has lived there in the past and difficult child 1 knows what to expect. Its where he tried to run me over with a car while I was hold a 4 month old difficult child 1 that was so sick he needed to go to the er. Our life was bad there. Even though he was just 4 months old difficult child 1 has described some of it to me in therapy. I sure don't tell him details of the abuse and I doubt X would (X tries to be Disney dad.) X does talk about when we were married but he tells difficult child 1 how wonderful it was.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">difficult child 1 has very good reason to be terrified. This time there is no wife. I worry all the abuse will land on difficult child 1. I can't stop the visitation though. If the court thinks I am denying X visitation (again) they will put me in jail and X will probably win custody of difficult child 1. The only way I can stop the visitation is for difficult child 1 to open up to the right person about the abuse he has seen or experienced. My mom isn't the right person. The court won't believe her. It has to be the drop off person, his therapist, a dcfs person, his teacher. No one in my family. No one he is comfortable with that he has opened up to in the past. X has told difficult child 1 not to talk to these people. Very frustrating for the therapist. To complicate things difficult child 1 doesn't always want to open up. When X showers him with gifts difficult child 1 doesn't want to lose his dad. He has told me in the past that he is not going to talk to those people because he doesn't want to lose his dad.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">difficult child 1 wants my mom to call him everyday. My mom said she would. A few problems: no phone service, cell phones don't work there, X will use my mom calling to try to hurt me, X might use her calling to try to hurt difficult child 1, X will take her calling difficult child 1 as permission for him or his parents to call difficult child 1 all hours of the day. I really hate X. Mom is going to try to call difficult child 1. We felt that reassuring difficult child 1 was worth all the consequences that could happen. Yesterday she didn't get through. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">X will probably NOT move right now. He has to sell his house first. He is just talking about it and all the above is worrying difficult child 1. Next weekend (if X has let difficult child 1 play enough X box) difficult child 1 will want to go. This is a catch-22. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">All I can do is take difficult child 1 to the psychiatrist, work on calming techniques, and try to get difficult child 1 to talk to the ttherapist. I feel its like trying to putting out a burning house with a squirt gun.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/dissapointed2.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":dissapointed2:" title="dissapointed2 :dissapointed2:" data-shortname=":dissapointed2:" /></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 457955"] [COLOR=#000000][FONT=Verdana]Mostly venting, but if you have any ideas to help I'd really like to hear them. Well new perspective. I learned on the internet last night that while very rare anxiety can cause hallucinations. Monday right after visitation difficult child 1 hears voices. His behavior gets increasing worse during the week. Right before the next visitation he melts down. "NO I'M NOT GOING TO X's HOUSE. HE's SCARY!" I try to get him to tell me why X is scary. (I'm not disagreeing with him; to me X is one straw short of satan, but I do not let difficult child 1 see that is what I think.). difficult child 1 will not tell me why X is scary. More questions just lead to more yelling. I stop questioning him and call the drop-off place to give them the heads up and hopefully get some help. No help. I call difficult child 1's therapist, but its Friday right before 5pm; no one there. difficult child 1 has a very good relationship with my mom. I call her. difficult child 1 opens up to her and talks about X. difficult child 1 is scared about X moving. X has been saying for the last 6 months that he is going to move. Move to a dirty, mouse infested place 45 min from the nearest neighbors (the nearest neighbors are X's parents.) Its in the middle of a dessert. Coyotes come right up to the windows. The cats difficult child 1 loves keep disappearing and he found the skeleton of one. There are rattlesnakes all over. Mice all over (we worry about haunta virus.) No electricity, no phone, no running water, no heat, no air conditioning. He hates his cousins. They don't have rules and aren't nice. difficult child 1 needs rules. He needs to know what to expect from peoples behavior. X has a m/o. He moves to the city to find a wife. He targets young (early 20's) single moms of special needs kids. After awhile he moves them to a place where no one can hear them scream. Then the abuse which was bad before gets life threatening. Then the wife leaves (so far he hasn't managed to kill one, but he has come close.) Then he moves back to a city and it all starts again. This house he says he is moving to is one of the places he moves the wife to. His family owns it. He has lived there in the past and difficult child 1 knows what to expect. Its where he tried to run me over with a car while I was hold a 4 month old difficult child 1 that was so sick he needed to go to the er. Our life was bad there. Even though he was just 4 months old difficult child 1 has described some of it to me in therapy. I sure don't tell him details of the abuse and I doubt X would (X tries to be Disney dad.) X does talk about when we were married but he tells difficult child 1 how wonderful it was. difficult child 1 has very good reason to be terrified. This time there is no wife. I worry all the abuse will land on difficult child 1. I can't stop the visitation though. If the court thinks I am denying X visitation (again) they will put me in jail and X will probably win custody of difficult child 1. The only way I can stop the visitation is for difficult child 1 to open up to the right person about the abuse he has seen or experienced. My mom isn't the right person. The court won't believe her. It has to be the drop off person, his therapist, a dcfs person, his teacher. No one in my family. No one he is comfortable with that he has opened up to in the past. X has told difficult child 1 not to talk to these people. Very frustrating for the therapist. To complicate things difficult child 1 doesn't always want to open up. When X showers him with gifts difficult child 1 doesn't want to lose his dad. He has told me in the past that he is not going to talk to those people because he doesn't want to lose his dad. difficult child 1 wants my mom to call him everyday. My mom said she would. A few problems: no phone service, cell phones don't work there, X will use my mom calling to try to hurt me, X might use her calling to try to hurt difficult child 1, X will take her calling difficult child 1 as permission for him or his parents to call difficult child 1 all hours of the day. I really hate X. Mom is going to try to call difficult child 1. We felt that reassuring difficult child 1 was worth all the consequences that could happen. Yesterday she didn't get through. X will probably NOT move right now. He has to sell his house first. He is just talking about it and all the above is worrying difficult child 1. Next weekend (if X has let difficult child 1 play enough X box) difficult child 1 will want to go. This is a catch-22. All I can do is take difficult child 1 to the psychiatrist, work on calming techniques, and try to get difficult child 1 to talk to the ttherapist. I feel its like trying to putting out a burning house with a squirt gun. :dissapointed2: [/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Auditory Hallucinations
Top