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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 458304" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know the position you are in, though not firsthand. When my uncle and his wife divorced, she kept custody by telling my cousin (A) she would kill herself if niece ever lived iwth her dad. L (the mom) had done a LOT to keep A from having any real relationship with my uncle even when they lived together. After a while, L met a man online and moved in with him and his son. Son was a true difficult child but was also a very abused little boy. L continued the abuse of him and A fought it all she could. A was 14 when the man started trying to groom her. I was the ONLY family member from the dad's side allowed into their home - L always liked me and we had a decent relationship even though I knew she was crazier than an outhouse rat. I just never let her see it and was always well mannered around her. I was HORRIFED at the living conditions and some notes that the man had left on A's bed (which was under a toilet outflow pipe leak - every time she moved the bed to not have raw sewage dripping on her pillow she got smacked around by her mom! Man told her if she did what he wanted he would let her move it.</p><p></p><p>A was lucky, we were able to talk her into telling the court she was living with dad, period. Tooka LOT of work and he gave her a LOT of financial incentives, like a car, etc... It helped taht she was old enough to be listened to by the court.</p><p></p><p>We also had plans to take her away, far away, get new identities and keep her safe from this man. You CAN find people to help you do this. in my opinion it is something you MUST consider, because x is going to kill your son. I know you are afraid of that, but in no way is difficult child truly able to tell on his dad to those who might help him. I am SURE x has threatened awful things if he tells on x - and those threats are more persuasive than an hour with any therapist can be. </p><p></p><p>You need to start a get-away fund, pack a kit for it, etc... DON"T WAIT TOO LONG!! It isn't easy, or fun, but you have to do what you can to save your child - even if means breaking the law to do it. </p><p></p><p>You also need to continue to get help from the area DV center. They may be more able to help you and to get difficult child to open up than anyone else. PLEASE try them, even if you have been there before. difficult child is a constant victim of DV as long as x is in his life. (Also consider a voice activated recorder snuck into his overnight bag, if you think x won't find it. I would be looking at spy cams and bugging x's house while he wasn't home - even if it is illegal, he might give in if you threaten to turn it ovver to the cops. Just because YOU broke the law to get the footage doesn't mean the cops can't use it against x - after all the cops didn't ask you to do it!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 458304, member: 1233"] I know the position you are in, though not firsthand. When my uncle and his wife divorced, she kept custody by telling my cousin (A) she would kill herself if niece ever lived iwth her dad. L (the mom) had done a LOT to keep A from having any real relationship with my uncle even when they lived together. After a while, L met a man online and moved in with him and his son. Son was a true difficult child but was also a very abused little boy. L continued the abuse of him and A fought it all she could. A was 14 when the man started trying to groom her. I was the ONLY family member from the dad's side allowed into their home - L always liked me and we had a decent relationship even though I knew she was crazier than an outhouse rat. I just never let her see it and was always well mannered around her. I was HORRIFED at the living conditions and some notes that the man had left on A's bed (which was under a toilet outflow pipe leak - every time she moved the bed to not have raw sewage dripping on her pillow she got smacked around by her mom! Man told her if she did what he wanted he would let her move it. A was lucky, we were able to talk her into telling the court she was living with dad, period. Tooka LOT of work and he gave her a LOT of financial incentives, like a car, etc... It helped taht she was old enough to be listened to by the court. We also had plans to take her away, far away, get new identities and keep her safe from this man. You CAN find people to help you do this. in my opinion it is something you MUST consider, because x is going to kill your son. I know you are afraid of that, but in no way is difficult child truly able to tell on his dad to those who might help him. I am SURE x has threatened awful things if he tells on x - and those threats are more persuasive than an hour with any therapist can be. You need to start a get-away fund, pack a kit for it, etc... DON"T WAIT TOO LONG!! It isn't easy, or fun, but you have to do what you can to save your child - even if means breaking the law to do it. You also need to continue to get help from the area DV center. They may be more able to help you and to get difficult child to open up than anyone else. PLEASE try them, even if you have been there before. difficult child is a constant victim of DV as long as x is in his life. (Also consider a voice activated recorder snuck into his overnight bag, if you think x won't find it. I would be looking at spy cams and bugging x's house while he wasn't home - even if it is illegal, he might give in if you threaten to turn it ovver to the cops. Just because YOU broke the law to get the footage doesn't mean the cops can't use it against x - after all the cops didn't ask you to do it!) [/QUOTE]
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