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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 591971" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Tony Attwood has a book called Aspergers and Girls. I highly recommend it, as it provides some really good insight.</p><p></p><p>Speaking from my personal experience, girls seem to have a few more social archetypes that fit with the behaviour presented by Aspie-girls, so the behaviour etc. don't seem as noticeable.</p><p>A few examples:</p><p></p><p>My hair must always be perfect. That doesn't mean tidy or nicely styled, but cut and worn in a way that doesn't set off any sensory alarm bells for me. So as a child and as a teen, I spent an inordinate amount of time fussing with my hair. Perfectly acceptable, and even expected from a girl.</p><p></p><p>Same thing with clothes. Everything has to sit right, seams mustn't pinch, and certain textures "go with" certain other textures. Fussing with clothes is a girl thing, so it is often missed.</p><p></p><p>I walk on my tiptoes, but I have been wearing heels since I was about 10 yrs old so no one notices. All they see is a girl who loves shoes. Again, not out of the ordinary for a girl.</p><p></p><p>I can be pedantic as all get-out when I start to talk about an obsession topic. But because of my small stature and little-girl voice, I come across more as bookish and studious than obsessive.</p><p></p><p>One of the things I've noticed over and over again through the years is that, because I look well put-together people don't associate my appearance with social blunders (which I make all. the. time.) Since the appearance and the blunders don't match, people focus more on the appearance and forgive all sorts of social transgressions which would raise major flags if I were a boy. I also usually had one or two mother-hen type friends who would guide me through the social mess and keep me from making a total cake of myself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 591971, member: 3907"] Tony Attwood has a book called Aspergers and Girls. I highly recommend it, as it provides some really good insight. Speaking from my personal experience, girls seem to have a few more social archetypes that fit with the behaviour presented by Aspie-girls, so the behaviour etc. don't seem as noticeable. A few examples: My hair must always be perfect. That doesn't mean tidy or nicely styled, but cut and worn in a way that doesn't set off any sensory alarm bells for me. So as a child and as a teen, I spent an inordinate amount of time fussing with my hair. Perfectly acceptable, and even expected from a girl. Same thing with clothes. Everything has to sit right, seams mustn't pinch, and certain textures "go with" certain other textures. Fussing with clothes is a girl thing, so it is often missed. I walk on my tiptoes, but I have been wearing heels since I was about 10 yrs old so no one notices. All they see is a girl who loves shoes. Again, not out of the ordinary for a girl. I can be pedantic as all get-out when I start to talk about an obsession topic. But because of my small stature and little-girl voice, I come across more as bookish and studious than obsessive. One of the things I've noticed over and over again through the years is that, because I look well put-together people don't associate my appearance with social blunders (which I make all. the. time.) Since the appearance and the blunders don't match, people focus more on the appearance and forgive all sorts of social transgressions which would raise major flags if I were a boy. I also usually had one or two mother-hen type friends who would guide me through the social mess and keep me from making a total cake of myself. [/QUOTE]
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