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My situation is different to the effect that I came into difficult child's lives when they were12 and 9. I saw major issues right away but thought at the time it might have to do with the changes in their dad's life getting with me and having another sibling come into the situation. It didn't take long when people kept saying things like "Do you know what you are getting into with these kids?" I had that question posed to me so many times I should have known it wasn't me. Then when I posed the careful questions to husband is standard answer was their is nothing wrong with my kids. He was very much head in the sand when I started to realize that difficult child 1 had been in a BD classroom setting right from kindergarten. difficult child 2 was evidently first diagnosed with ADHD in early learning which was age 3. He was out of control in school settings always too. Bio mom didn't even talk to the schools until I got involved and husband was living in blinders. The first time he realized more was wrong was after difficult child 1 threw easy child down the stairs for trying to protect difficult child 2. What concerned me most about that was their was no remorse on difficult child 1's part. This was after the full school year of huge problems. So when was onset to get back to your question...long before I was involved. When did treatment start? When I insisted on it or that I would move out with easy child and difficult child 2 to keep them safe from difficult child 1. Bio mom then made a play to try and be involved and discovered how hard it would be and walked out on difficult child 1's treatment and told difficult child 2 that she wanted nothing to do with him again. Not sure if that is what you were looking for or not.Beth
My situation is different to the effect that I came into difficult child's lives when they were12 and 9. I saw major issues right away but thought at the time it might have to do with the changes in their dad's life getting with me and having another sibling come into the situation. It didn't take long when people kept saying things like "Do you know what you are getting into with these kids?" I had that question posed to me so many times I should have known it wasn't me. Then when I posed the careful questions to husband is standard answer was their is nothing wrong with my kids. He was very much head in the sand when I started to realize that difficult child 1 had been in a BD classroom setting right from kindergarten. difficult child 2 was evidently first diagnosed with ADHD in early learning which was age 3. He was out of control in school settings always too. Bio mom didn't even talk to the schools until I got involved and husband was living in blinders. The first time he realized more was wrong was after difficult child 1 threw easy child down the stairs for trying to protect difficult child 2. What concerned me most about that was their was no remorse on difficult child 1's part. This was after the full school year of huge problems. So when was onset to get back to your question...long before I was involved. When did treatment start? When I insisted on it or that I would move out with easy child and difficult child 2 to keep them safe from difficult child 1. Bio mom then made a play to try and be involved and discovered how hard it would be and walked out on difficult child 1's treatment and told difficult child 2 that she wanted nothing to do with him again. Not sure if that is what you were looking for or not.
Beth
