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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 746328" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Beta I am so sorry for what you are going through. It seems to be a theme with our wayward ones. Yo-yo emotions, theirs, trying to entangle our hearts, to keep us in their game. They are keenly aware of what “pokes us in the eye” to get a reaction that sends us into a frenzy of what ifs, triggering rescue mode.</p><p>It’s heartbreaking and maddening.</p><p>I am still struggling at times, I can’t deny it.</p><p>I like what Eliza shared with us on my thread, that she reminds herself she is an observer. Removing our emotional involvement and attachment helps to reveal the truth in this game playing our addicted adult children engage in. I read something today about addicts having no empathy or fellow feeling for others. Drugs remove that from their brains. I have to remember that. My daughters have played me so many times. I am an object to them. As long as they are using, that is all I will be.</p><p>It is sad, but true.</p><p>I don’t want to be anybody’s pawn or puppet. Least of all someone I raised, yes, imperfectly, but with love. </p><p>Hang in there Beta, do something for you.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 746328, member: 19522"] Beta I am so sorry for what you are going through. It seems to be a theme with our wayward ones. Yo-yo emotions, theirs, trying to entangle our hearts, to keep us in their game. They are keenly aware of what “pokes us in the eye” to get a reaction that sends us into a frenzy of what ifs, triggering rescue mode. It’s heartbreaking and maddening. I am still struggling at times, I can’t deny it. I like what Eliza shared with us on my thread, that she reminds herself she is an observer. Removing our emotional involvement and attachment helps to reveal the truth in this game playing our addicted adult children engage in. I read something today about addicts having no empathy or fellow feeling for others. Drugs remove that from their brains. I have to remember that. My daughters have played me so many times. I am an object to them. As long as they are using, that is all I will be. It is sad, but true. I don’t want to be anybody’s pawn or puppet. Least of all someone I raised, yes, imperfectly, but with love. Hang in there Beta, do something for you. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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