Thank you Tedo and Pasajes for your replies. Yes I slept on it all and just keep going thru the entire absurdity of what we have lived thru this past 3 years. And had already awakened this morning knowing this is what I have to do. It is just like watching a baby grow: when you are living with them and you see them everyday you don't realize how much they have grown until you go away for awhile and come back and then you see the changes. What I mean, is that we have lived with such TOTAL chaos and upheaveldness and having to deal with things in and out on a daily basis for so long that our sense of "normal" has been changed completely. We are so inundated with his problems and trying to work and keep our heads above water that we do not see how horribly, horribly bad this has become. YOu are so right in that if a friend told me this story I would say WTF and hold their hand walk with them to the police station.
So I guess I go today to set the wheels in motion. This is just awful and I know that it is him that did this to himself. My guilt stems from the fact that as a parent I guess we always feel there is something more we could have done or done differently. My husband just this very moment woke up and grumbled that I was STILL on the computer. I told him"Yes I am having him arrested". He said "Well this is all on you". WOW. We have a good marriage (30 years) and are friends but have always argued A LOT. I guess in some way I will just have to learn to deal with this too . Our daughter, 24, was FURIOUS at me last night when I told her I had second guessed myself at the entrance to TPD and decided to try another alternative such as intervention. Her comment was "Mom you are in denial. He is a bad person. He continues to steal and use drugs and you REWARD him with saying "oh baby you need help. Let me pay 60K for you to go off to this nice place by the sea to get better." Out of the mouths of babes right??
SO a cup of coffee and I am off. I will update everyone as I do need support for what I have done.
Thanks.
