I'm sorry, I know how hard this is on you and your husband. And, I agree with DDD that these felony charges have a huge impact on these kids lives in ways that end up being detrimental and not at all matched with the crimes. Sigh. My difficult child got a felony conviction for a crime she didn't even know about, simply because some nimrod gave her items to hold on to in exchange for some help she gave him. The items, stored in a box at the house she was staying at had a computer with a GPS and the cops came marching in and arrested her. She hadn't even opened the box. Then I decided to not bail her out or pay for an attorney, she got a court appointed attorney and ended up pleading guilty just to get out of jail. It's all a travesty and it happened because she had no representation to speak of. One place that helps place these convicted felons is NAMI, I got my difficult child connected to that org. but I don't know if she is availing herself to that help. They also help with schooling. And, usually, if the kids stay clean for so many years, the charges may go to a misdemeanor or get expunged, so it may not be for life if he straightens himself out. You can check with the PO or the attorney about that. Again, I'm sorry. I send you prayers and hugs.....................
