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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 420141" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>He is still young. With the various diagnoses, his social maturity and impulse control are likely to be a huge issue. Here, we have to cope without Residential Treatment Center (RTC). We have other sorts of things we can maybe use if we are desperate, but it is difficult. As result, I have had a ringside seat in watching the struggles of my own kids as they move through impulse control and aggression issues. Sometimes when the conditions are closely controlled, it's easier to behave. But back in the family situation, the problems come back.</p><p></p><p>if he knows what is wrong but cannot prevent himself fully from hurting others due to impulse control issues, then punishment (even self-punishment) is only going to reinforce "I am bad at heart; I can never be good." T the same time, the others need to be safe.</p><p></p><p>What can work better, is modelling good behaviour as well as watching him closely to teach him to remove himself BEFORE he does something he regrets. At 11 it is a tall order, but it is time for him to learn this.</p><p></p><p>I cannot tell you to send him back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I have no experience there. But I can tell you that a kid with impulse control issues and aggressive tendencies can be helped and can learn (eventually) self-control. But it also requires close supervision until the brain catches up to social requirements.</p><p></p><p>That is the Aussie perspective, anyway.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 420141, member: 1991"] He is still young. With the various diagnoses, his social maturity and impulse control are likely to be a huge issue. Here, we have to cope without Residential Treatment Center (RTC). We have other sorts of things we can maybe use if we are desperate, but it is difficult. As result, I have had a ringside seat in watching the struggles of my own kids as they move through impulse control and aggression issues. Sometimes when the conditions are closely controlled, it's easier to behave. But back in the family situation, the problems come back. if he knows what is wrong but cannot prevent himself fully from hurting others due to impulse control issues, then punishment (even self-punishment) is only going to reinforce "I am bad at heart; I can never be good." T the same time, the others need to be safe. What can work better, is modelling good behaviour as well as watching him closely to teach him to remove himself BEFORE he does something he regrets. At 11 it is a tall order, but it is time for him to learn this. I cannot tell you to send him back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I have no experience there. But I can tell you that a kid with impulse control issues and aggressive tendencies can be helped and can learn (eventually) self-control. But it also requires close supervision until the brain catches up to social requirements. That is the Aussie perspective, anyway. Marg [/QUOTE]
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