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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 244855" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>Part of me can't wait to have him out of here. It's so amazing how he can go from calm, together child to out of control, 18 year old Conduct Disorder, cursing, screaming teen to 4 year old baby crying in the fetal position in the corner of his room, then back to normal again, and STAY normal for SO long then go back to this cycle.</p><p> </p><p>I'm tired of his voice.</p><p> </p><p>I really believe there is alot wrong with this boy. Maybe I'm reading more into what is really there because of the things he already has - but I'm telling ya, something's not right. And, with every intervention, every added piece of "help", and every year that goes by, I see his father more and more in this kid. And, his father = garbage. 40 years old, riding a bike (bicycle) to work because he's just hit his 3rd DUI and is getting locked up.</p><p> </p><p>That's 2 months after he was swinging a box cutter at the police threatening to take their lives in June. That was the incident where his "friend" got shot in the leg and killed because they were out in the city, drunk, high, and rear ended some lady.</p><p> </p><p>Some people just never learn. D is maturing, yes - and has his "good" times, yes, but in the end, I really feel like this "I can do whatever I want and **F** everyone else because it's my way or no way" attitude is coming through more and more and more. He's compliant, HERE, but in school, for example - nothing. Shut down. Refusal of all academics. Why? Who knows. He can do the work. He doesn't wanna. </p><p> </p><p>So, although this is hearbreaking for me, especially having been through the placement roller coaster with B, I know in my heart D is very, very mentally ill, and needs help. And, he's gonna go, because, I can't do it. I can't cure him. I can't fix him. I've done every type of behavior mod, therapy, intervention known to man, and he's still in this up and down Bipolar/Autistic/whatever the heck you wanna call it phase. Manic - stimulated, LOL, whatever. He needs stabilized.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not really sure of the place yet. They're huge here. The last Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) was cushy. Horseback riding, art and pets, lots of being outside fun. Trips, etc. This one isn't that way, it's all psychiatric. He needs more than a 10 min meeting with a psychiatrist once a month. He needs more watching than that. And, indefinite watching, not "you're here 6 months then you can go" (upon admission). From what I gather, this Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is very psychiatric. I will do a tour, and if I don't agree, I have other options. I have 2 others to look into if I don't like this one - so it'll be a process.</p><p> </p><p>I'm hoping I just like this first one and it's an easy transition. We will keep in home therapist to help until he's in. </p><p> </p><p>On a positive note, last night, the first night in 12 years, he FINALLY said to me "I'm pi*sed off". He was angry. He was. That was the first time, ever, he expressed it. Calmly. Wow. Talk about finding the needle in the haystack or trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. LOL! That was a baby step - but a huge one for him. Dunno where it came from. Probably won't see it again for a while. But, I can sorta, kinda be excited about it for now.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks everyone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 244855, member: 2737"] Part of me can't wait to have him out of here. It's so amazing how he can go from calm, together child to out of control, 18 year old Conduct Disorder, cursing, screaming teen to 4 year old baby crying in the fetal position in the corner of his room, then back to normal again, and STAY normal for SO long then go back to this cycle. I'm tired of his voice. I really believe there is alot wrong with this boy. Maybe I'm reading more into what is really there because of the things he already has - but I'm telling ya, something's not right. And, with every intervention, every added piece of "help", and every year that goes by, I see his father more and more in this kid. And, his father = garbage. 40 years old, riding a bike (bicycle) to work because he's just hit his 3rd DUI and is getting locked up. That's 2 months after he was swinging a box cutter at the police threatening to take their lives in June. That was the incident where his "friend" got shot in the leg and killed because they were out in the city, drunk, high, and rear ended some lady. Some people just never learn. D is maturing, yes - and has his "good" times, yes, but in the end, I really feel like this "I can do whatever I want and **F** everyone else because it's my way or no way" attitude is coming through more and more and more. He's compliant, HERE, but in school, for example - nothing. Shut down. Refusal of all academics. Why? Who knows. He can do the work. He doesn't wanna. So, although this is hearbreaking for me, especially having been through the placement roller coaster with B, I know in my heart D is very, very mentally ill, and needs help. And, he's gonna go, because, I can't do it. I can't cure him. I can't fix him. I've done every type of behavior mod, therapy, intervention known to man, and he's still in this up and down Bipolar/Autistic/whatever the heck you wanna call it phase. Manic - stimulated, LOL, whatever. He needs stabilized. I'm not really sure of the place yet. They're huge here. The last Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) was cushy. Horseback riding, art and pets, lots of being outside fun. Trips, etc. This one isn't that way, it's all psychiatric. He needs more than a 10 min meeting with a psychiatrist once a month. He needs more watching than that. And, indefinite watching, not "you're here 6 months then you can go" (upon admission). From what I gather, this Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is very psychiatric. I will do a tour, and if I don't agree, I have other options. I have 2 others to look into if I don't like this one - so it'll be a process. I'm hoping I just like this first one and it's an easy transition. We will keep in home therapist to help until he's in. On a positive note, last night, the first night in 12 years, he FINALLY said to me "I'm pi*sed off". He was angry. He was. That was the first time, ever, he expressed it. Calmly. Wow. Talk about finding the needle in the haystack or trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. LOL! That was a baby step - but a huge one for him. Dunno where it came from. Probably won't see it again for a while. But, I can sorta, kinda be excited about it for now. Thanks everyone. [/QUOTE]
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