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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 749702" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>So sorry to hear this. I agree with Copa. Take a giant step back if at all possible.</p><p></p><p>When my son was in Florida - he was sent there from our home in Chicago to do sober living after being in rehab here (at age 20) - we thought it would be sober living and then going to junior college - it ended up being the Florida shuffle. In and out of rehab and sober living. His drug of choice was pills (mostly benzo but some pain medications). He even overdosed once while there but we did not know about it until after the fact.....</p><p></p><p>Anyway my point is that I had to pull way back from him. I had been in private therapy for detachment and boundaries and in some ways that prepared me for the worst thing that could happen. That my son could die from his addiction. I had to face the worst possible outcome so that I could get a grip on where we all were in his addiction. I had to do this to protect myself. I learned that I needed to do that on this forum and it was further verified by my therapist. I could not in any way control any of this. How do you watch someone you love hell bent on destroying themselves and not lose your frigging mind?</p><p></p><p>My son is much better now (thanks to God and only God - my prayers were answered) but he is not where I would like him to be yet but I feel the threat of death is no longer there which is huge for me. He still has a long way to go and I definitely have PTSD and anxiety from everything we've been through and in the end, it didn't help him (or me) at all.</p><p></p><p>We really, really need to take care of ourselves. We aren't 20 year old that can bounce back from things like we used to be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 749702, member: 15032"] So sorry to hear this. I agree with Copa. Take a giant step back if at all possible. When my son was in Florida - he was sent there from our home in Chicago to do sober living after being in rehab here (at age 20) - we thought it would be sober living and then going to junior college - it ended up being the Florida shuffle. In and out of rehab and sober living. His drug of choice was pills (mostly benzo but some pain medications). He even overdosed once while there but we did not know about it until after the fact..... Anyway my point is that I had to pull way back from him. I had been in private therapy for detachment and boundaries and in some ways that prepared me for the worst thing that could happen. That my son could die from his addiction. I had to face the worst possible outcome so that I could get a grip on where we all were in his addiction. I had to do this to protect myself. I learned that I needed to do that on this forum and it was further verified by my therapist. I could not in any way control any of this. How do you watch someone you love hell bent on destroying themselves and not lose your frigging mind? My son is much better now (thanks to God and only God - my prayers were answered) but he is not where I would like him to be yet but I feel the threat of death is no longer there which is huge for me. He still has a long way to go and I definitely have PTSD and anxiety from everything we've been through and in the end, it didn't help him (or me) at all. We really, really need to take care of ourselves. We aren't 20 year old that can bounce back from things like we used to be. [/QUOTE]
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