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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 562387" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>WTWE, your difficult child's behaviour and thinking reminds me of my difficult child. He's both BiPolar (BP) and Aspie (with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Anxiety and a bunch of other stuff that goes along). </p><p></p><p>For a very long time, tdocs, psychiatrists and paediatricians had him diagnosed as ADHD/ODD and were prescribing stimulants and SSRIs. Once a very good forensic psychiatrist did a full workup and pinpointed the BiPolar (BP), everything fell into place. The hyperactivity of mania can look just like the hyperactivity of ADHD, but the stimulant medications can send someone with BiPolar (BP) right over the top. Add in the SSRIs, and it can just go straight to H-E-*-* in a handbasket.</p><p></p><p>The distorted thinking is a real challenge. I once corrected difficult child about something minor, where he misinterpreted my words. He got very upset with me, so I asked him: "Tell me exactly what I just said to you that got you so upset." He replied that I had just told him he was stupid, and he wasn't stupid. So my, "That's not really what I meant" was translated in his mind as "You're stupid." Knowing that really helped me to better understand that communicating with my difficult child by talking to him just wasn't going to work well. So much noise and interference that the verbal input just wasn't getting through.</p><p></p><p>Now we communicate much more in writing (e-mail, text message, even scribbled notes), and much less through talking. It has really helped us to clear up so many misunderstandings. AND it seems to help difficult child not take things to personally. It's no longer, "Mom's being a B, she told me to Blah". It's, well "The rules say I'm supposed to Blah. I guess I'd better Blah."</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure why it works -- something to do with auditory vs. visual processing of information, but it really makes a huge difference for us.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is something you can try out with your difficult child? Just a thought. Another tool that might work for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 562387, member: 3907"] WTWE, your difficult child's behaviour and thinking reminds me of my difficult child. He's both BiPolar (BP) and Aspie (with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Anxiety and a bunch of other stuff that goes along). For a very long time, tdocs, psychiatrists and paediatricians had him diagnosed as ADHD/ODD and were prescribing stimulants and SSRIs. Once a very good forensic psychiatrist did a full workup and pinpointed the BiPolar (BP), everything fell into place. The hyperactivity of mania can look just like the hyperactivity of ADHD, but the stimulant medications can send someone with BiPolar (BP) right over the top. Add in the SSRIs, and it can just go straight to H-E-*-* in a handbasket. The distorted thinking is a real challenge. I once corrected difficult child about something minor, where he misinterpreted my words. He got very upset with me, so I asked him: "Tell me exactly what I just said to you that got you so upset." He replied that I had just told him he was stupid, and he wasn't stupid. So my, "That's not really what I meant" was translated in his mind as "You're stupid." Knowing that really helped me to better understand that communicating with my difficult child by talking to him just wasn't going to work well. So much noise and interference that the verbal input just wasn't getting through. Now we communicate much more in writing (e-mail, text message, even scribbled notes), and much less through talking. It has really helped us to clear up so many misunderstandings. AND it seems to help difficult child not take things to personally. It's no longer, "Mom's being a B, she told me to Blah". It's, well "The rules say I'm supposed to Blah. I guess I'd better Blah." I'm not sure why it works -- something to do with auditory vs. visual processing of information, but it really makes a huge difference for us. Maybe this is something you can try out with your difficult child? Just a thought. Another tool that might work for you. [/QUOTE]
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