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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 659379" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>LMS1, I am so sorry. I understand how crushed you and your husband are.</p><p></p><p>As everybody has said, relapse is such a part of this disease, and it's almost inevitable. It doesn't mean he is a bad person. It means he can't stay clean right now. </p><p></p><p>He may have to hit another, harder, rock bottom before he is sick and tired enough. Everybody is different.</p><p></p><p>I'm just so sorry for your hurting heart. Set your boundaries and decide what will and won't work for you. </p><p></p><p>If he continues to use, it will catch up with him, and he will have to deal with those consequences. You can't protect him from himself. He has to walk the path. </p><p></p><p>In time, you can decide if and when you will see him, and under what circumstances. At one point, my Difficult Child and I would meet at the day shelter on Fridays and he would come and sit in my car for 10 minutes. That was what I needed and all I needed at that point. It was about me. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there! Things can turn around, in time. Work to let go, and focus on YOU. You deserve a great life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 659379, member: 17542"] LMS1, I am so sorry. I understand how crushed you and your husband are. As everybody has said, relapse is such a part of this disease, and it's almost inevitable. It doesn't mean he is a bad person. It means he can't stay clean right now. He may have to hit another, harder, rock bottom before he is sick and tired enough. Everybody is different. I'm just so sorry for your hurting heart. Set your boundaries and decide what will and won't work for you. If he continues to use, it will catch up with him, and he will have to deal with those consequences. You can't protect him from himself. He has to walk the path. In time, you can decide if and when you will see him, and under what circumstances. At one point, my Difficult Child and I would meet at the day shelter on Fridays and he would come and sit in my car for 10 minutes. That was what I needed and all I needed at that point. It was about me. Hang in there! Things can turn around, in time. Work to let go, and focus on YOU. You deserve a great life. [/QUOTE]
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