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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 659414" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>He only slipped up once in only ten days.</p><p></p><p>We learned that getting over addiction takes time and a changed mindset. His thinking his slipup was ok is an excuse. He is not ready to quit once he is away from protective doors. If he will go back or go to some rehab and do the entire program and then a step down, that may be best for him. Of course, he has to want it.</p><p></p><p>My daughter did not go to rehab, but it was a real fight within herself to quit. It was not fast. She did not one day say, "That's it. I'm done." She relapsed too. Peer pressure to keep using, from old "friends" who knew or know them when they did, will do everything to tempt them back. Seems like they hate to see somebody quit. My daughter had to leave the state and start fresh to quit. </p><p></p><p>Your son will have to do what he feels will help him the most. Unfortunately, everything we try can not stop them. All our love does not trump the desire for their drugs of choice. They have to really, really want it in order to quit, however they do it. I've been here (the forum) a long time and never yet seen somebody come back home and quit. That just seems to be at odds with the disease. And it IS a disease. </p><p></p><p>You did and always have done the very best you know how. But this is not within your power. He is the only one with the power. Let him get angry. You know you are doing what is best for him and, better yet, YOU. You and your husband deserve peace and sanity. j</p><p></p><p>Hugs and hoping for the very, very best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 659414, member: 1550"] He only slipped up once in only ten days. We learned that getting over addiction takes time and a changed mindset. His thinking his slipup was ok is an excuse. He is not ready to quit once he is away from protective doors. If he will go back or go to some rehab and do the entire program and then a step down, that may be best for him. Of course, he has to want it. My daughter did not go to rehab, but it was a real fight within herself to quit. It was not fast. She did not one day say, "That's it. I'm done." She relapsed too. Peer pressure to keep using, from old "friends" who knew or know them when they did, will do everything to tempt them back. Seems like they hate to see somebody quit. My daughter had to leave the state and start fresh to quit. Your son will have to do what he feels will help him the most. Unfortunately, everything we try can not stop them. All our love does not trump the desire for their drugs of choice. They have to really, really want it in order to quit, however they do it. I've been here (the forum) a long time and never yet seen somebody come back home and quit. That just seems to be at odds with the disease. And it IS a disease. You did and always have done the very best you know how. But this is not within your power. He is the only one with the power. Let him get angry. You know you are doing what is best for him and, better yet, YOU. You and your husband deserve peace and sanity. j Hugs and hoping for the very, very best. [/QUOTE]
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