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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 206139" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi,</p><p></p><p>thanks!!</p><p></p><p>The dean actually called me on the way to movie with difficult child tonight. Pooky - no, my oldest does not have any diagnosis, has never been evaluated. She's just nasty!! yuck! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>I sat during movie and thought about the situation quite a bit. I mulled over the teacher's response to her, her words to the teacher. I took sometime to really think about the problems I have been having at home with her as of late. She has been very defiant, nasty and disrespectful to me. We experienced this mos. ago it got to a farily climactic point, therapy was implemented, I made her spent a whole lotta time with me. Than things seemed to calm. </p><p></p><p>Yet lately it's been different. Her words are so nasty and hurtful. She has told me on more than one occassion it is her life and her choices. That if she choices to fail school, etc. it's her choice!! Can you imagine!! grrrr So, she's failing two classes, the same as last year. She is also only averaging mid 70's in the other classes. She does not apply herself in school. Her social life, boyfriend, friends take center stage. After I took the time to think about what happened I realized that it is more likely than not that my daughter was disrespectful to that teacher. Teacher's are people too, with emotions. She's fed up with my kid, her lack of effort in her class, her always talking in her class. Now icing on the cake she shows up slightly late I think to this make up test (last day to make up test also), and my daughter gives her attitude, probably trying to show off infront of her friends. The friends being in the hallway I'm sure escalated the situation.</p><p></p><p>So, we have mtg set up for monday at 9:45. Yet dean and I both know this isn't her MO, she's never told off a teacher before. I know the dean unfortunately <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> when my daughter flew off the handle last year began failing, spacing in class. WE had a team meeting whereas all her teachers, dean, guidance counselor, school psychiatric were present. We even had her drug tested to see if drugs were reason for lack of effort. I knew in my gut it wasnt' but i figured i'd make them happy and do the testing.</p><p></p><p>So, I requested the dean, teacher and myself discuss things first then we bring my daugther in to talk. </p><p></p><p>As with most teenagers she doesn't see how she is negatively affecting her future, her chances. She doesn't realize that the world isn't the same world as when I was a teenager. I try to explain to her that years ago a person could complete high school than go on to find work and make something of it. Yet now with the economy being how it is, competition's thick, jobs are few and far between. i'm afraid for the future she will have.</p><p></p><p>I keep thinking ok, what did the teacher actually do wrong here other than lose her cool with me on the phone? I'm good at dealing with irrational teachers, had alot of practice with difficult child's teacher last year. Yet if my daughter was disrespectful I could totally see her giving her a 0 and telling her to get lost. </p><p></p><p>Am I off track with this thinking??</p><p></p><p>thanks <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 206139, member: 4514"] hi, thanks!! The dean actually called me on the way to movie with difficult child tonight. Pooky - no, my oldest does not have any diagnosis, has never been evaluated. She's just nasty!! yuck! :( I sat during movie and thought about the situation quite a bit. I mulled over the teacher's response to her, her words to the teacher. I took sometime to really think about the problems I have been having at home with her as of late. She has been very defiant, nasty and disrespectful to me. We experienced this mos. ago it got to a farily climactic point, therapy was implemented, I made her spent a whole lotta time with me. Than things seemed to calm. Yet lately it's been different. Her words are so nasty and hurtful. She has told me on more than one occassion it is her life and her choices. That if she choices to fail school, etc. it's her choice!! Can you imagine!! grrrr So, she's failing two classes, the same as last year. She is also only averaging mid 70's in the other classes. She does not apply herself in school. Her social life, boyfriend, friends take center stage. After I took the time to think about what happened I realized that it is more likely than not that my daughter was disrespectful to that teacher. Teacher's are people too, with emotions. She's fed up with my kid, her lack of effort in her class, her always talking in her class. Now icing on the cake she shows up slightly late I think to this make up test (last day to make up test also), and my daughter gives her attitude, probably trying to show off infront of her friends. The friends being in the hallway I'm sure escalated the situation. So, we have mtg set up for monday at 9:45. Yet dean and I both know this isn't her MO, she's never told off a teacher before. I know the dean unfortunately :( when my daughter flew off the handle last year began failing, spacing in class. WE had a team meeting whereas all her teachers, dean, guidance counselor, school psychiatric were present. We even had her drug tested to see if drugs were reason for lack of effort. I knew in my gut it wasnt' but i figured i'd make them happy and do the testing. So, I requested the dean, teacher and myself discuss things first then we bring my daugther in to talk. As with most teenagers she doesn't see how she is negatively affecting her future, her chances. She doesn't realize that the world isn't the same world as when I was a teenager. I try to explain to her that years ago a person could complete high school than go on to find work and make something of it. Yet now with the economy being how it is, competition's thick, jobs are few and far between. i'm afraid for the future she will have. I keep thinking ok, what did the teacher actually do wrong here other than lose her cool with me on the phone? I'm good at dealing with irrational teachers, had alot of practice with difficult child's teacher last year. Yet if my daughter was disrespectful I could totally see her giving her a 0 and telling her to get lost. Am I off track with this thinking?? thanks :) [/QUOTE]
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