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Bail raised to $600,000!! insanity!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 642363" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm not a Christian, WorriedMom. I have my own beliefs though and they are more Buddhist. I can say I do understand your feeling sad for your son, but I don't. He assaulted somebody and had six witnesses testify against him. That is more than the average difficult child. I think your son probably has some sociopath in him or he couldn't have done what he did, no matter who he was with. I believe his punishment will be just, no matter what it is. He is way beyond the realm of most of our difficult children who mostly just harm themselves or do non-violent crimes. I am very strict about violence and don't want violent individuals on the street.</p><p></p><p>Your son is a man. What happens happens. I do not wish him any harm wherever he ends up. I wish him sincere (emphasized) self-reflection and a change in attitude. I thought you were going to show me a tape of a boy in jail, which may have softened my heart a little, for the moment, depending on what he did. Now I don't believe non-violent drug users should go to jail so I'm not aht hardhearted. In fact, I'm considered a diehard liberal, which most Americans think of as "socialist." I feel for t he downtrodden, the sick, those without money...I give to charities, have adopted and fostered needy children and animals, have sponsored children from different countries, have worked with the homeless in a shelter and cried buckets, and done many things to help other people. I think the death penalty is barbaric.</p><p></p><p>I just can't feel sorry for your son. It is YOU I feel sorry for. I am hoping that YOU can learn to live your life, in spite of whatever your son has to go through. Most of us have had to do just that.</p><p></p><p>Once an adult child goes beyond just self-destruction and/or non-violence, I consider that person somebody who needs to be off the streets as it could very well happen again and again unless there are serious consequences. You need to understand that your son did a VERY bad thing...he hurt somebody on top of terrorizing six minor children. All your focus is on him, not the victims. Even as a diehard liberal who wishes mercy on almost everybody, I can not feel this for your son. I believe he will get justice, whatever the Judge feels that means, and I hope that someday you can move on in your life and let your son write his own life story. He most certainly will end up where he is over and over again if he hooks up with those who pick on minors and use guns and assault. He has a long way to go. It won't be fast or easy, if he changes. His words, while he is behind bars, are not necessarily how he really feels. We'll see how he does once he's out, whenever that is. I most certainly will forgive him and be very proud of him if he actually turns his life around. I don't believe you can help him do this though. It has to be coming from inside of him deep.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, he needs to learn that you don't victimize children and you most certainly don't hurt them or hold a weapon over them. It's wrong, wrong, wrong. It needs correcting. But I hope YOU go on with your life while your son is possibly learning the biggest and best lesson of his life...crime doesn't pay. the vast majority of our kids are here because of drug use, not THAT sort of crime. I do feel for drug addicts because it is an illness. Assaulting minors is not an illness. It is just being mean. I'll let the others weigh in now. I'm very gone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 642363, member: 1550"] I'm not a Christian, WorriedMom. I have my own beliefs though and they are more Buddhist. I can say I do understand your feeling sad for your son, but I don't. He assaulted somebody and had six witnesses testify against him. That is more than the average difficult child. I think your son probably has some sociopath in him or he couldn't have done what he did, no matter who he was with. I believe his punishment will be just, no matter what it is. He is way beyond the realm of most of our difficult children who mostly just harm themselves or do non-violent crimes. I am very strict about violence and don't want violent individuals on the street. Your son is a man. What happens happens. I do not wish him any harm wherever he ends up. I wish him sincere (emphasized) self-reflection and a change in attitude. I thought you were going to show me a tape of a boy in jail, which may have softened my heart a little, for the moment, depending on what he did. Now I don't believe non-violent drug users should go to jail so I'm not aht hardhearted. In fact, I'm considered a diehard liberal, which most Americans think of as "socialist." I feel for t he downtrodden, the sick, those without money...I give to charities, have adopted and fostered needy children and animals, have sponsored children from different countries, have worked with the homeless in a shelter and cried buckets, and done many things to help other people. I think the death penalty is barbaric. I just can't feel sorry for your son. It is YOU I feel sorry for. I am hoping that YOU can learn to live your life, in spite of whatever your son has to go through. Most of us have had to do just that. Once an adult child goes beyond just self-destruction and/or non-violence, I consider that person somebody who needs to be off the streets as it could very well happen again and again unless there are serious consequences. You need to understand that your son did a VERY bad thing...he hurt somebody on top of terrorizing six minor children. All your focus is on him, not the victims. Even as a diehard liberal who wishes mercy on almost everybody, I can not feel this for your son. I believe he will get justice, whatever the Judge feels that means, and I hope that someday you can move on in your life and let your son write his own life story. He most certainly will end up where he is over and over again if he hooks up with those who pick on minors and use guns and assault. He has a long way to go. It won't be fast or easy, if he changes. His words, while he is behind bars, are not necessarily how he really feels. We'll see how he does once he's out, whenever that is. I most certainly will forgive him and be very proud of him if he actually turns his life around. I don't believe you can help him do this though. It has to be coming from inside of him deep. In the meantime, he needs to learn that you don't victimize children and you most certainly don't hurt them or hold a weapon over them. It's wrong, wrong, wrong. It needs correcting. But I hope YOU go on with your life while your son is possibly learning the biggest and best lesson of his life...crime doesn't pay. the vast majority of our kids are here because of drug use, not THAT sort of crime. I do feel for drug addicts because it is an illness. Assaulting minors is not an illness. It is just being mean. I'll let the others weigh in now. I'm very gone. [/QUOTE]
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