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Bail raised to $600,000!! insanity!
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<blockquote data-quote="Hope_Floats" data-source="post: 642480" data-attributes="member: 18310"><p>WM, you love your son and always will. I understand that. I also love my son very much. But sometimes I don't LIKE him. And sometimes trying to support and defend him too much as an adult, only validates and enables his feeling like a victim, and not learning how to be Godly instead. </p><p></p><p>I would HIGHLY recommend two books for you that may resonate with you enough to help you begin to build your own life again, and leave the parenting of an adult to God himself. You give yourself too much credit for having power that you don't have, but wish you did, to "fix" him. <u>When I Lay My Isaac Down </u> by Carol Kent (NavPress) and <u>Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents</u> by Allison Bottke (Harvest House Publishers), which is my favorite. Allison writes from a Christian perspective and also has a son who has spent time in jail. She lovingly lays down the path to take in order to free yourself from the overwhelming bondage of guilt, fear, shame, anger, frustration, grief, and denial. You can (and must) get of the catastrophe carousel and find hope and healing. </p><p></p><p>I will leave you with a quote that you might not like, but that I hope will help you begin a necessary shift in perspective: </p><p></p><p>"When a parent places mercy above God's clear directives, they inadvertently endorse behavior that is atithetical to faith." -Author Don Otis, in an interview.</p><p></p><p>I wish you peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hope_Floats, post: 642480, member: 18310"] WM, you love your son and always will. I understand that. I also love my son very much. But sometimes I don't LIKE him. And sometimes trying to support and defend him too much as an adult, only validates and enables his feeling like a victim, and not learning how to be Godly instead. I would HIGHLY recommend two books for you that may resonate with you enough to help you begin to build your own life again, and leave the parenting of an adult to God himself. You give yourself too much credit for having power that you don't have, but wish you did, to "fix" him. [U]When I Lay My Isaac Down [/U] by Carol Kent (NavPress) and [U]Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents[/U] by Allison Bottke (Harvest House Publishers), which is my favorite. Allison writes from a Christian perspective and also has a son who has spent time in jail. She lovingly lays down the path to take in order to free yourself from the overwhelming bondage of guilt, fear, shame, anger, frustration, grief, and denial. You can (and must) get of the catastrophe carousel and find hope and healing. I will leave you with a quote that you might not like, but that I hope will help you begin a necessary shift in perspective: "When a parent places mercy above God's clear directives, they inadvertently endorse behavior that is atithetical to faith." -Author Don Otis, in an interview. I wish you peace. [/QUOTE]
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