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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 206584" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We had to wash difficult child 1's hair with a damp washcloth only, for years. He was so extreme about it, nothing else would do. We tried the ring thing you push onto their head like a hat with no crown, we had limited success with that. What eventually worked was getting him to lie down in a shallow bathtub so I could rinse his hair that way.</p><p></p><p>Looking back, it comes down to fear and a need to have control over the process. Once he felt in control, his fear lessened enough for his hair to be washed.</p><p></p><p>Cutting hair was also a big problem - trying to trim a moving target gave some awful results sometimes.</p><p></p><p>How it was handled (the bath situation) - father in law had control here for a while because I was in hospital having easy child 2/difficult child 2 - he would insist, and force difficult child 1 to lie back in the bath to get water poured over his head. I think difficult child 1 was already going to be a problem anyway with hair-washing, but I think this made him a lot worse. When I came home from hospital, we had big problems from that point on, any progress I had been making concerning coaxing GFG12 to let me use a cup on his head - gone.</p><p>Mind you, father in law had some wonderful success with toilet-training difficult child 1 when nobody else could get results. What father in law was doing - great, for a easy child. We had no idea what we were dealing with and now, with 22 years of hindsight, I can put the problems down to Asperger's, undiagnosed.</p><p></p><p>You do what works. What has worked for us is. with hindsight, very similar to "Explosive Child". Once more it makes sense.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 206584, member: 1991"] We had to wash difficult child 1's hair with a damp washcloth only, for years. He was so extreme about it, nothing else would do. We tried the ring thing you push onto their head like a hat with no crown, we had limited success with that. What eventually worked was getting him to lie down in a shallow bathtub so I could rinse his hair that way. Looking back, it comes down to fear and a need to have control over the process. Once he felt in control, his fear lessened enough for his hair to be washed. Cutting hair was also a big problem - trying to trim a moving target gave some awful results sometimes. How it was handled (the bath situation) - father in law had control here for a while because I was in hospital having easy child 2/difficult child 2 - he would insist, and force difficult child 1 to lie back in the bath to get water poured over his head. I think difficult child 1 was already going to be a problem anyway with hair-washing, but I think this made him a lot worse. When I came home from hospital, we had big problems from that point on, any progress I had been making concerning coaxing GFG12 to let me use a cup on his head - gone. Mind you, father in law had some wonderful success with toilet-training difficult child 1 when nobody else could get results. What father in law was doing - great, for a easy child. We had no idea what we were dealing with and now, with 22 years of hindsight, I can put the problems down to Asperger's, undiagnosed. You do what works. What has worked for us is. with hindsight, very similar to "Explosive Child". Once more it makes sense. Marg [/QUOTE]
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