Neither of these options work at my house, already tried on several occasions, and she expects a long, drawn out, explanation of why we must enforce the rules we have given her and why we don't allow temper tantrums. She isn't satisfied with any less explanation and will pester the CRAP out of us if we don't come up with SOMETHING, but as soon as we do, she finds our response "Stupid" and "Unimportant" which prompts her to throw a temper tantrum anyway, because we are taking up so much of her precious time wasting it on explaining ourselves!!! Catch 22???? Definitely.