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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 671366" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Lil, just take it slow and easy.</p><p></p><p>Remember that helping him isn't really helping him. I know that he wants his girlfriend to be with him but that may not be what is best for him. He is still trying to figure out how to live on his own and take care of himself and until he can do that what can he really offer his girlfriend? My concern is that they are together and before you know it she may end up pregnant. If he's set on being with her then it's up to him to figure out how that will happen. You don't need to make it easy for him.</p><p>I am reminded of my son and us buying a house for him to live in. He met a girl and within a couple of months she was pregnant and this happened after he assured me he knew how to be careful.</p><p></p><p>As for him wanting help to find an apartment, it's very kind of you to make some calls for him. An option you might consider is buying him a trac phone, one that's pay as you go. That way he can make these calls himself. Do you have an old bike you can give him that he can ride to and from work.</p><p></p><p>I know the struggle you are facing and the emotions that go with it. You can only do what you can live with. You can do nothing and that's ok. You can do little and that's ok. You can do much and that's ok. There are no right or wrong answers here just advice from those of us who have been through it and survived to tell the tale.</p><p></p><p>Mostly, just take it slow. Make sure you and Jabber are on the same page.</p><p></p><p>Big HUGS to you Lil. You will get through this. You have an upcoming trip to look forward to. Do not let him derail those plans.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 671366, member: 18516"] Lil, just take it slow and easy. Remember that helping him isn't really helping him. I know that he wants his girlfriend to be with him but that may not be what is best for him. He is still trying to figure out how to live on his own and take care of himself and until he can do that what can he really offer his girlfriend? My concern is that they are together and before you know it she may end up pregnant. If he's set on being with her then it's up to him to figure out how that will happen. You don't need to make it easy for him. I am reminded of my son and us buying a house for him to live in. He met a girl and within a couple of months she was pregnant and this happened after he assured me he knew how to be careful. As for him wanting help to find an apartment, it's very kind of you to make some calls for him. An option you might consider is buying him a trac phone, one that's pay as you go. That way he can make these calls himself. Do you have an old bike you can give him that he can ride to and from work. I know the struggle you are facing and the emotions that go with it. You can only do what you can live with. You can do nothing and that's ok. You can do little and that's ok. You can do much and that's ok. There are no right or wrong answers here just advice from those of us who have been through it and survived to tell the tale. Mostly, just take it slow. Make sure you and Jabber are on the same page. Big HUGS to you Lil. You will get through this. You have an upcoming trip to look forward to. Do not let him derail those plans. [/QUOTE]
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