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I'm taking a crack at these types of systems with my Big B.


What do you think of this? Is it too much, too little? These are the major power struggle areas for him and I. Am I too cold with wording, should child be his name (or does that single him out), our names where parent is...make it more warm or just leave clinical like.


This type of "discipline" is new to me. I'm a natural parenting type (what most refer to as crunchy, gentle discipline, unconditional parenting, a form of consensual living except health and safety are non negotiable - not like I allow him the natural consequences of sticking the palm of his hand on a hot stove top or anything). My concern is it might be redundant is some areas or I may be expecting too much.


BEHAVIORAL EXPECTATIONS

Wake up:

0 – 5 points

• Gets up when called

• Dresses appropriately

• Brushes teeth

• Makes Lunches

• Combs hair

• Out the door on time

School:

0 – 5 points

• Follows school rules

• Does not disturb others

• Uses materials or equipment appropriately

• Listens to staff

• Makes effort to complete assigned work

Bedtime:

0 – 5 points

• Knows his/her correct bedtime and observes it

• Completes necessary tasks prior to bedtime

• Remains quiet and orderly and does not disturb others while in his/her room

• Completes homework in timely fashion before bedtime

Shower Time:

0 – 3 points

• Showers in 5 minutes then dresses promptly

• Showers every second or third day

Recreation/Outside

0 – 10 points

• Stays in front and parent view

• Obeys rules of outside play

Obey other parental presence and authority when parent is not there

Respect friends

No in and out of the house

When called in, come in

530 PM is dinner time, must be home at that time

Always ask before going to friends houses

Call if going to be late

Cooperation:

0 – 10 points

(Weekends 0-7 pts and Evening 0-3 pts)

• Addresses family members with respect

• Cooperative and keeps hands & feet to self

• Does not disrupt conversation and waits turn to talk

• Follows directions and does not engage in loud or unruly behavior

• No talk back or sass when asked to perform a responsibility or duty

• Respects friends and personal space of people around them

• Keeps hands/feet and comments to self

• Does not horseplay

• Follows directions

Responsibilities:

0 – 10 points

• Completes the work assignment in a cooperative manner and follows instruction

• Does not waste time

Room Clean Up:

0 – 3 points

• Bed is made

• Floor is swept daily

• Nothing is on the floor

Dishes:

0 – 2 points

• Done ever night

• No arguments over who's turn it is

• No fighting about the chore

General Tidiness of House Up:

0 – 5 points

• Helps keep the house tidy

• When asked to pick up something does so with respect and promptly

• Puts jacket, backpack and shoes where they belong



Daily Points:

Monday

Tuesday

Wednesday

Thursday

Friday

Saturday

Sunday


Weekly Points:

Week

Point Total


Monthly Points:

Month : April

Points Gained

Points Revoked

Total


Points gained for the following behavioral contract and expectations can be redeemed for privileges such as phone time, computer time, television or movie privileges (above and beyond normal privileges) or other rewards set out at the beginning of every week.


Two (2) reminders for each section will be given, after the last reminder a set of points is revoked for each time the responsibility is ignored or unperformed. Upon correction of behavior the point may be given back by only the parent that revoked the point.


Once a week a privilege is given by redeeming points earned. Points may be saved on a monthly basis for larger privileges desired (new game for Wii, a toy or game board desired, etc).


PENALTIES


Penalties are negative reinforcement designed to reduce the frequency of misbehavior when

rewards do not produce the desired behavior. Before a penalty is given, the child will be given an explanation of the misbehavior and given a chance to explain his/her behavior. An explanation or excuse by the child does not mean that the penalty will be removed.


The following types of penalties that will be used:


Verbal Correction is a notice to the child in a firm assertive manner that his/her behavior is

not appropriate and a directive as to what the parent specifically wants him/her to do. There is

no loss of points for a verbal correction but loss of points for 2 consecutive verbal corrections.


Restriction follows two verbal corrections in most cases. It results from the child ignoring the verbal correction or for failure to correct behavior after being given two verbal corrections. A restriction results in no points earned for that hour of activity.


Fines are penalties given for deliberate defiance of a rule or expected behavior or failure to

correct behavior after a restriction is given. A fine will result in 10 points being deducted from

the point card.


Rebates are refunds of fines when a behavior is corrected. Only the parent who issued the fine may issue a rebate. Rebates must be issued before the end of day, before bedtime. All or part of the fined points may be rebated.


Child Signature

Parents Signature

DATE:


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