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I agree that it's way too much to expect from a 9yo. I was happy if my son took a shower at 9yo. LOL! And behavior contracts work for some, I hear, but made things worse for me and my son. So around 11yo, we used a reward system- punishments/negative consequences were not a part of it because they were about things that were expected and I had less tolerance for- like being disrespectful to me. The reward system was for things like getting homework done. But again, this was for a middle school aged boy. My son just got released from Department of Juvenile Justice and this looks like a list straight from their point system - and even teenagers have trouble meeting those expectations.

[QUOTE="klmno, post: 352695, member: 3699"] I agree that it's way too much to expect from a 9yo. I was happy if my son took a shower at 9yo. LOL! And behavior contracts work for some, I hear, but made things worse for me and my son. So around 11yo, we used a reward system- punishments/negative consequences were not a part of it because they were about things that were expected and I had less tolerance for- like being disrespectful to me. The reward system was for things like getting homework done. But again, this was for a middle school aged boy. My son just got released from Department of Juvenile Justice and this looks like a list straight from their point system - and even teenagers have trouble meeting those expectations. [/QUOTE]

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