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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 488315"><p>Well for me part of it was the convenience for me.... picking out clothes for him and not being sure of what he would like plus having to mail them just felt like a hassle to me.</p><p></p><p>So today I went to Sears and got him a gift card... which can only be used for merchandise and cannot be cashed in. I decided I would just take the chance. I decided though on the bike after asking that I would not get another gift card for that but let him go and look at them and then we could order it online and either have him pick it up there or have it delivered to him there. I just did not want to give him that much in gift cards, plus i haven't yet gotten a hold of my dad to see if he wants to do it that way.</p><p></p><p>WELL..... I texted difficult child this morning asking him when he was going to move over to the less restrictive place. My understanding is he was where he is for 2 weeks and then would move over so that would be on Wed. He texted me back saying it would be longer than he expected. I asked what that meant? He said apparently he was not strong enough to abstain if it was right under his nose? I asked him if he knew that or did they see that about him? He responded that he discovered and then rediscovered it. I asked him then if he had been sorely tempted? He said no he relapsed and so hence he was not strong enough to resist and so he is going to be in the more restrictive place another two weeks. That is all I know....</p><p></p><p>So the good news is he told me himself and admitted it. My hope is that is a step in the right direction....The bad news of course is that he relapsed... interesting that a kid who came in "clean" on drug tests is having so much trouble staying sober. My real hope though is that he is starting to see that he really is addicted to using.</p><p></p><p>I feel good for the little conversation and that he seems to be at a place that is really trying to help him. I am relieved that this time it was not a call from being on the street... and in fact I was not invovled at all in any of it but heard this from him after the fact. </p><p></p><p>And another clue that my gut of being conned was probably on target. </p><p></p><p>So I am going to send him a package for Xmas of some underwear, boxers, some food staples, and a book of poetry and some drawing stuff... oh and maybe a cookbook of my mothers. The gift card I am going to hold onto for now.... and clearly the bike is going to wait.</p><p></p><p>We shall see what the future will bring....</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 488315"] Well for me part of it was the convenience for me.... picking out clothes for him and not being sure of what he would like plus having to mail them just felt like a hassle to me. So today I went to Sears and got him a gift card... which can only be used for merchandise and cannot be cashed in. I decided I would just take the chance. I decided though on the bike after asking that I would not get another gift card for that but let him go and look at them and then we could order it online and either have him pick it up there or have it delivered to him there. I just did not want to give him that much in gift cards, plus i haven't yet gotten a hold of my dad to see if he wants to do it that way. WELL..... I texted difficult child this morning asking him when he was going to move over to the less restrictive place. My understanding is he was where he is for 2 weeks and then would move over so that would be on Wed. He texted me back saying it would be longer than he expected. I asked what that meant? He said apparently he was not strong enough to abstain if it was right under his nose? I asked him if he knew that or did they see that about him? He responded that he discovered and then rediscovered it. I asked him then if he had been sorely tempted? He said no he relapsed and so hence he was not strong enough to resist and so he is going to be in the more restrictive place another two weeks. That is all I know.... So the good news is he told me himself and admitted it. My hope is that is a step in the right direction....The bad news of course is that he relapsed... interesting that a kid who came in "clean" on drug tests is having so much trouble staying sober. My real hope though is that he is starting to see that he really is addicted to using. I feel good for the little conversation and that he seems to be at a place that is really trying to help him. I am relieved that this time it was not a call from being on the street... and in fact I was not invovled at all in any of it but heard this from him after the fact. And another clue that my gut of being conned was probably on target. So I am going to send him a package for Xmas of some underwear, boxers, some food staples, and a book of poetry and some drawing stuff... oh and maybe a cookbook of my mothers. The gift card I am going to hold onto for now.... and clearly the bike is going to wait. We shall see what the future will bring.... TL [/QUOTE]
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