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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 588349" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Not all kids have tantrums though. I don't think most kids go ballistic at being told "no." Of course, I'm not an expert, but I've been around a lot of little kids in my life, both at home and work. And I was a tantrum kid an d in no way was I a typical kid. My siblings were appalled at my meltdowns and they never had any. Some of mine included, "If you don't do XXXXX I'm going to keep R. and A. up all night." And I meant it. I was so out of control by the time I said that, I couldn't calm down. Why was this? Not sure, even though I am ME. I had certain triggers, and even I wasn't sure what they would be, and once I got started, the rage ramped up within seconds to the point w here I couldn't calm down even if I had wanted to. Rage however is a very very potent emotion and once you feel it, until you have subsided, you don't WANT to let it go so it snowballs. In my case I know I had a mood disorder even when extremely young, although in those days they never diagnosed it. But it wasn't "normal."</p><p></p><p>My brother and sister and most of my kids have/had normal childhood reactions to being told "no" or being frustrated. They may frown or cry for a few seconds (and I do mean seconds), but the only one who had full blown tantrums and aggression was Sonic and his interventions stopped that, which is why I feel they are so important to do. </p><p></p><p>Extreme tantrums and aggression toward other is not a normal part of being a young child. The aggression toward other kids I had with Mr. 35, and I had him in therapy by age five. I knew it wasn't normal and it scared me because I was afraid he had inherited stuff from me (he had). </p><p></p><p>If you don't know the root cause of why a child is acting out, it's really hard to help him/her. And nobody wants a teenager or an adult who has tantrums and rages. I also still did as a young adult, Insane C. I knew we were a lot alike...lol. but, seriously, I couldn't control myself even then and I felt like a total loser because I wanted to control myself. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I do think a transfer to a more amicable school would help J. There is nothing more frustrating than a school that refuses to accept you and thinks you are just a naughty child. been there done that. It can cause you to stop trying and to act out at school or to cut classes. Nobody wants to be seen as bad. It is often a prophecy for the child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 588349, member: 1550"] Not all kids have tantrums though. I don't think most kids go ballistic at being told "no." Of course, I'm not an expert, but I've been around a lot of little kids in my life, both at home and work. And I was a tantrum kid an d in no way was I a typical kid. My siblings were appalled at my meltdowns and they never had any. Some of mine included, "If you don't do XXXXX I'm going to keep R. and A. up all night." And I meant it. I was so out of control by the time I said that, I couldn't calm down. Why was this? Not sure, even though I am ME. I had certain triggers, and even I wasn't sure what they would be, and once I got started, the rage ramped up within seconds to the point w here I couldn't calm down even if I had wanted to. Rage however is a very very potent emotion and once you feel it, until you have subsided, you don't WANT to let it go so it snowballs. In my case I know I had a mood disorder even when extremely young, although in those days they never diagnosed it. But it wasn't "normal." My brother and sister and most of my kids have/had normal childhood reactions to being told "no" or being frustrated. They may frown or cry for a few seconds (and I do mean seconds), but the only one who had full blown tantrums and aggression was Sonic and his interventions stopped that, which is why I feel they are so important to do. Extreme tantrums and aggression toward other is not a normal part of being a young child. The aggression toward other kids I had with Mr. 35, and I had him in therapy by age five. I knew it wasn't normal and it scared me because I was afraid he had inherited stuff from me (he had). If you don't know the root cause of why a child is acting out, it's really hard to help him/her. And nobody wants a teenager or an adult who has tantrums and rages. I also still did as a young adult, Insane C. I knew we were a lot alike...lol. but, seriously, I couldn't control myself even then and I felt like a total loser because I wanted to control myself. I do think a transfer to a more amicable school would help J. There is nothing more frustrating than a school that refuses to accept you and thinks you are just a naughty child. been there done that. It can cause you to stop trying and to act out at school or to cut classes. Nobody wants to be seen as bad. It is often a prophecy for the child. [/QUOTE]
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