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Bipolar adult son, is wanting to move back in.
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 741035" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Hi Gary, </p><p></p><p>I hope we haven't all overwhelmed you here. I think you'll see we all really agree on the fundamentals here: 1) your son needs help, and 2) getting him that help does not have to involve bringing him into your home at this moment. Not bringing him into your home does not mean you have to abandon him without hope and without resources. It does mean finding ways to help him that give equal weight to the needs and safety of your spouse and younger children. And to your own needs and safety. This does not have to be either or: protect your family and abandon your son, or help your son and sacrifice the safety of the rest of your family. There are ways to do both. </p><p></p><p>But all of those ways depend on your son being willing to do the heavy lifting towards finding treatments that work for him, complying with those treatments, and accessing other resources that are available to him. Many of us have adult children who are not willing to do that. And if they are not willing and ready to take those steps, we can't force them to. But if he chooses to remain sleeping in his truck rather than accessing those resources and working towards a better life, that is HIS choice and NOT your fault. It does not become your responsibility to accommodate him in the way he prefers just because he does not like the other alternatives that are available to him. </p><p></p><p>We all love all of our children, even those who are difficult or even dangerous at times. We are here because we genuinely want to find answers - for them, and for us. This is not an easy road. I hope you'll stay and give us an update on his situation and how you are doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 741035, member: 23349"] Hi Gary, I hope we haven't all overwhelmed you here. I think you'll see we all really agree on the fundamentals here: 1) your son needs help, and 2) getting him that help does not have to involve bringing him into your home at this moment. Not bringing him into your home does not mean you have to abandon him without hope and without resources. It does mean finding ways to help him that give equal weight to the needs and safety of your spouse and younger children. And to your own needs and safety. This does not have to be either or: protect your family and abandon your son, or help your son and sacrifice the safety of the rest of your family. There are ways to do both. But all of those ways depend on your son being willing to do the heavy lifting towards finding treatments that work for him, complying with those treatments, and accessing other resources that are available to him. Many of us have adult children who are not willing to do that. And if they are not willing and ready to take those steps, we can't force them to. But if he chooses to remain sleeping in his truck rather than accessing those resources and working towards a better life, that is HIS choice and NOT your fault. It does not become your responsibility to accommodate him in the way he prefers just because he does not like the other alternatives that are available to him. We all love all of our children, even those who are difficult or even dangerous at times. We are here because we genuinely want to find answers - for them, and for us. This is not an easy road. I hope you'll stay and give us an update on his situation and how you are doing. [/QUOTE]
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