Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Birthday Party Disaster
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 752166" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>I used to react like this too. This is exactly something my daughter would have done in the past. A lot of my anger came from me feeling embarrassed in situations like this because I worried about what other people thought. Then I figured out the only person I can control is me. My daughter's behavior is a reflection of the person she is, not me or my parenting or anything else, just her. My daughter is extremely self-centered, very thoughtless of others. She's better than she used to be, but still somewhat that way. When my parents used to ask me why she did this or that or why she was behaving in a certain way I would say, "I don't know. You'll have to ask her. I can't control her." They got it after awhile and stopped asking me to explain her behavior. </p><p></p><p>I don't know who all was at the party, but after about 20 minutes if it was family I would have just said something like, "I don't know what's going on but feel free to leave, as I am going to." And then I would have left. My daughter did crap like this all the time when my granddaughter was younger. She wouldn't show up for holidays, etc. So I started planning my own celebrations with my granddaughter for a time when I had her. That way I knew I would get special time with her to celebrate and wouldn't be at the mercy of my daughter, which used to cause me great frustration and anger. I would reiterate the key here is realizing you can't control your daughter and you are not responsible for her behavior. Figure out ways to do the things you want to do with your grandchild that don't rely on your daughter. That will avoid a lot of anger, frustration and hurt feelings. I'm the party didn't go well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 752166, member: 11235"] I used to react like this too. This is exactly something my daughter would have done in the past. A lot of my anger came from me feeling embarrassed in situations like this because I worried about what other people thought. Then I figured out the only person I can control is me. My daughter's behavior is a reflection of the person she is, not me or my parenting or anything else, just her. My daughter is extremely self-centered, very thoughtless of others. She's better than she used to be, but still somewhat that way. When my parents used to ask me why she did this or that or why she was behaving in a certain way I would say, "I don't know. You'll have to ask her. I can't control her." They got it after awhile and stopped asking me to explain her behavior. I don't know who all was at the party, but after about 20 minutes if it was family I would have just said something like, "I don't know what's going on but feel free to leave, as I am going to." And then I would have left. My daughter did crap like this all the time when my granddaughter was younger. She wouldn't show up for holidays, etc. So I started planning my own celebrations with my granddaughter for a time when I had her. That way I knew I would get special time with her to celebrate and wouldn't be at the mercy of my daughter, which used to cause me great frustration and anger. I would reiterate the key here is realizing you can't control your daughter and you are not responsible for her behavior. Figure out ways to do the things you want to do with your grandchild that don't rely on your daughter. That will avoid a lot of anger, frustration and hurt feelings. I'm the party didn't go well. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Birthday Party Disaster
Top