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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 490278" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>Thanks everyone.I think I have come up with two alternatives that will work. I just have to decide which to do.</p><p></p><p>First is a gift certificate for one or two Lazar tag sessions. He loves this but hasn't gone for at least 2 years because he has no one to do it with. That problem still exists but we "could" do it together as a family if he will go for that.</p><p></p><p>The other is that I remembered that there is a new Zelda game out for the Wii that he talked about getting last month. I think it's single player but it may be multi. I asked him if he was still interested in that game so he could add it to his wish list and he said it would be OK. But it takes an upgraded sensor bar for our Wii and the total cost for the game + bar is going to be something like $70. Ouch.</p><p></p><p>Dammit Janet - you are so right on about his reaction to the xbox themed stuff - he would see it as taunting him. I think it would definitely invoke the power struggle over the xbox.</p><p></p><p>He isn't so much into music. He listens to it some on an old MP3 player but mostly he listens to audiobooks when he can. I asked him last week about the music he liked now and he refused to talk about it. Argh. The kid is so fixated on the power struggle that you cannot hold any kind of real conversation with him.</p><p></p><p>Fixing a nice dinner is a complicated dance since he has a twin sister who has very different tastes. He will eat such a small range of foods it is really tough to figure out what to fix for a "celebration" meal. We decided to go out to dinner with his godmother near where she lives (30 minutes away) but now can't get any agreement on what kind of restaurant to go to...</p><p></p><p>As if this weren't all enough, we got woken up at 1:30 last night by a screaming fight between the twins. easy child had spent about 3 hours making cookies to give to friends and neighbors. Now, she is a bit challenged in the area of cooking and the ratio of effort to cookies produced is pretty high. She probably only got 2 dozen cookies for her 3 hours of work.She left them out to cool since she didn't start this project til 8 pm or so.</p><p></p><p>Her brother got up for a middle of the night roam and ate at least half of them - mostly the nicest ones she had made. There were only 2 of those left. </p><p></p><p>She went to put them away, discovered this and went ballistic, partly because he KNEW that she had made them to give away because he was still up when she finished and she had been nice enough to give him a couple already. Along with the info she had made them as gifts.</p><p></p><p>He was not remorseful and insisted he had only eaten one more cookie and hadn't done anything wrong. We pointed to the half empty cooling rack that had started out covered with cookies and he just repeated that he hadn't eaten them. He stood there screaming at us that she was lying and he hadn't done anything wrong. I wanted to slap him silly but I didn't. I'm afraid I did tell him that eating the cookies when he knew that his sister had worked hard to make them in order to give them to neighbors and friends made him a jerk, which I think was over the line and I regret doing. Will have to apologize to him for that today. Which totally sticks in my craw.</p><p></p><p>We decided that we are going to tell him he has to make replacement cookies but getting him to do that is probably going to be nearly impossible. We decided that the consequence for not making more cookies was going to be loss of computer and TV until he did it...</p><p></p><p>I hope he goes to school today. I'm not sure I am going to be able to stand to having him around the whole day, glowering at me and his sister. She's already off on break but his school is in session until the end of the week.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 490278, member: 11920"] Thanks everyone.I think I have come up with two alternatives that will work. I just have to decide which to do. First is a gift certificate for one or two Lazar tag sessions. He loves this but hasn't gone for at least 2 years because he has no one to do it with. That problem still exists but we "could" do it together as a family if he will go for that. The other is that I remembered that there is a new Zelda game out for the Wii that he talked about getting last month. I think it's single player but it may be multi. I asked him if he was still interested in that game so he could add it to his wish list and he said it would be OK. But it takes an upgraded sensor bar for our Wii and the total cost for the game + bar is going to be something like $70. Ouch. Dammit Janet - you are so right on about his reaction to the xbox themed stuff - he would see it as taunting him. I think it would definitely invoke the power struggle over the xbox. He isn't so much into music. He listens to it some on an old MP3 player but mostly he listens to audiobooks when he can. I asked him last week about the music he liked now and he refused to talk about it. Argh. The kid is so fixated on the power struggle that you cannot hold any kind of real conversation with him. Fixing a nice dinner is a complicated dance since he has a twin sister who has very different tastes. He will eat such a small range of foods it is really tough to figure out what to fix for a "celebration" meal. We decided to go out to dinner with his godmother near where she lives (30 minutes away) but now can't get any agreement on what kind of restaurant to go to... As if this weren't all enough, we got woken up at 1:30 last night by a screaming fight between the twins. easy child had spent about 3 hours making cookies to give to friends and neighbors. Now, she is a bit challenged in the area of cooking and the ratio of effort to cookies produced is pretty high. She probably only got 2 dozen cookies for her 3 hours of work.She left them out to cool since she didn't start this project til 8 pm or so. Her brother got up for a middle of the night roam and ate at least half of them - mostly the nicest ones she had made. There were only 2 of those left. She went to put them away, discovered this and went ballistic, partly because he KNEW that she had made them to give away because he was still up when she finished and she had been nice enough to give him a couple already. Along with the info she had made them as gifts. He was not remorseful and insisted he had only eaten one more cookie and hadn't done anything wrong. We pointed to the half empty cooling rack that had started out covered with cookies and he just repeated that he hadn't eaten them. He stood there screaming at us that she was lying and he hadn't done anything wrong. I wanted to slap him silly but I didn't. I'm afraid I did tell him that eating the cookies when he knew that his sister had worked hard to make them in order to give them to neighbors and friends made him a jerk, which I think was over the line and I regret doing. Will have to apologize to him for that today. Which totally sticks in my craw. We decided that we are going to tell him he has to make replacement cookies but getting him to do that is probably going to be nearly impossible. We decided that the consequence for not making more cookies was going to be loss of computer and TV until he did it... I hope he goes to school today. I'm not sure I am going to be able to stand to having him around the whole day, glowering at me and his sister. She's already off on break but his school is in session until the end of the week. [/QUOTE]
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