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Birthday present quandry - advice?
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 490301" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I have told Q he was acting like a jerk when he does things that I know are developmentally within his ability to know better. If you would say your easy child is acting like a jerk then it is the same for difficult child in my humble opinion. I guess I never thought that jerk was a terrible word, just means you chose to do something that really hurt someone else, not a swear word or anything. He has eaten whole boxes of things in one day that we had just talked about and he does not get those treats bought for often 6 or more months. I just stop buying those things. </p><p></p><p>What he did not only hurt her feelings, but it made her efforts a waste of time and money. He owes her. Could you have him sell a game to pay for the new ingredients if he doesn't have cash?. I have made Q pay for things with his things... since he usually does not have money. It helps him to learn the value of things to others. But I understand there are trade offs and for some kids there is a fine line between teaching a lesson and a for sure dangerous blowup.... </p><p></p><p>On the birthday list of things.... I like the ones that involve interacting with you guys... if he can do it and does not make you miserable. Seems like he would get the message that you want to be with him, but you are not indulging the home gaming obsession. (and believe me to an extent I indulge Q's special interests, but at this point they dont interfere with anything, he would always prefer going somewhere with me or his family .... I would have to do like you and prioritize if that changed for sure.)</p><p></p><p>Poor easy child I feel terrible for her. I would probably have lost my cool too. He sounds like he has no impulse control at all, and boy can I relate to living with a child like that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 490301, member: 12886"] I have told Q he was acting like a jerk when he does things that I know are developmentally within his ability to know better. If you would say your easy child is acting like a jerk then it is the same for difficult child in my humble opinion. I guess I never thought that jerk was a terrible word, just means you chose to do something that really hurt someone else, not a swear word or anything. He has eaten whole boxes of things in one day that we had just talked about and he does not get those treats bought for often 6 or more months. I just stop buying those things. What he did not only hurt her feelings, but it made her efforts a waste of time and money. He owes her. Could you have him sell a game to pay for the new ingredients if he doesn't have cash?. I have made Q pay for things with his things... since he usually does not have money. It helps him to learn the value of things to others. But I understand there are trade offs and for some kids there is a fine line between teaching a lesson and a for sure dangerous blowup.... On the birthday list of things.... I like the ones that involve interacting with you guys... if he can do it and does not make you miserable. Seems like he would get the message that you want to be with him, but you are not indulging the home gaming obsession. (and believe me to an extent I indulge Q's special interests, but at this point they dont interfere with anything, he would always prefer going somewhere with me or his family .... I would have to do like you and prioritize if that changed for sure.) Poor easy child I feel terrible for her. I would probably have lost my cool too. He sounds like he has no impulse control at all, and boy can I relate to living with a child like that. [/QUOTE]
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