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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 455450" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Sorry you had to come back. I raised easy child/difficult child by default also. The smartest thing I have ever done is get a Durable Power of Attorney drawn up a lawyer. It stipulated that I had the legal right to make educational, medical, etc. decisions for easy child/difficult child. His Mother (my daughter) didn't hesitate to go by the office and have her signature notarized by the desk secretaries. I paid her for her time and gas money.</p><p></p><p>The document will give you peace of mind as you won't have to hunt down your daughter for the sake of the child's safety and care. I never had one problem signing up for play groups, regular school, hospital or doctor care and...sad to say...dealing with Court's etc. once he became a messed up teen. </p><p></p><p>I have never been able to "teach" his Mom to be a good Mom. She subsequently had two more children by two other boyfriends. It's a long story but the bottom line is that easy child/difficult child (regardless of his poor choices) always knew he had a safe secure home and "parents" who loved him. His Mom would definitely have "sent him to visit" somewhere. I can only imagine how frightened you were by that. I was never comfortable even letting him go with his Mom. Sigh!</p><p>She did, and still does, love to show off "her son" when he is looking good etc. because it reflects positively on her.</p><p></p><p>Do you remember "Ant's Mom"? She followed my course and was able to keep her grandson safe for years. Later Ant got his act together and became a responsible single parent. She, too, was able to handle it without causing resentment with her child...because it is just so logical. Good luck and welcome back. I joined when Abbey and Pico were still in the family. I'm trying to place Mamabear and Karen but it's not coming to me right now. Guess you know that we lost Joy a few years ago. What a great family this is! DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 455450, member: 35"] Sorry you had to come back. I raised easy child/difficult child by default also. The smartest thing I have ever done is get a Durable Power of Attorney drawn up a lawyer. It stipulated that I had the legal right to make educational, medical, etc. decisions for easy child/difficult child. His Mother (my daughter) didn't hesitate to go by the office and have her signature notarized by the desk secretaries. I paid her for her time and gas money. The document will give you peace of mind as you won't have to hunt down your daughter for the sake of the child's safety and care. I never had one problem signing up for play groups, regular school, hospital or doctor care and...sad to say...dealing with Court's etc. once he became a messed up teen. I have never been able to "teach" his Mom to be a good Mom. She subsequently had two more children by two other boyfriends. It's a long story but the bottom line is that easy child/difficult child (regardless of his poor choices) always knew he had a safe secure home and "parents" who loved him. His Mom would definitely have "sent him to visit" somewhere. I can only imagine how frightened you were by that. I was never comfortable even letting him go with his Mom. Sigh! She did, and still does, love to show off "her son" when he is looking good etc. because it reflects positively on her. Do you remember "Ant's Mom"? She followed my course and was able to keep her grandson safe for years. Later Ant got his act together and became a responsible single parent. She, too, was able to handle it without causing resentment with her child...because it is just so logical. Good luck and welcome back. I joined when Abbey and Pico were still in the family. I'm trying to place Mamabear and Karen but it's not coming to me right now. Guess you know that we lost Joy a few years ago. What a great family this is! DDD [/QUOTE]
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